Bed wetting at 7?

Question

my husbands little man is have problems and wets the bed every night, and sometime has accidents during the day.

We never act like he has done anything wrong, we never tell him off - and offer treats when he has had a near dry night or got up at least once during the night.

Then we have him sent to us with a directive from the ex - no pull ups on doctors orders. he still sleeps through and will quite happily lay in his bed wet until its time to get up. He then says he wears pull ups for bed at home - whereas i have to wash the sheets when he comes here. If we put him in them she'll stop him coming. Would a doctor say " stop the pull ups" without some other words of wisdom? We've requested her to send the eliged hospital visit in writing - and are thinking of applying for his medical records to see what is realy going on (this woman is a hypocondrica - proven) My son and I have asthma and the smell of urine gets on our chests in the morning

Answer 1

I would let her know that he is going to be wearing a pull up at your house.  Its rediculous, cruel (and unsanitary) to force him to sleep in a pee soaked  bed! Its actually against the law for her to "stop" lettting him to come over!  You can still work on the issue without the child suffering in that manner!

Answer 2

Tell daddy to call his doctor and ask! Its his son, and he has the right to look at his medical info. Just call and ask the Dr or nurse what to do. Maybe even bring him in for a visit yourself!

Answer 3

Bet wetting at seven is not uncommon. Stop letting him drink after 5 p.m. Something is bothering him. Could be the divorce, or school. Talk to the boy and try to find out what is on his mind. Make him feel loved by you and don't talk about your husband's little boy, but say our little boy. Avoid talking about your hubby's ex in his presence. Not much else can be done

Answer 4

Stopping the pull ups is bad advice.  It is punishing him.  He can't help it.   You should just put him back in diapers at night until he outgrows it.  You can alo save money by just getting some cloth diapers and plastic pants.  When I was a kid I used to pee in my pants every night.  My mother would come in at night and put a diaper on me.  It helped me.  No kid should have to sleep in wet pajamas.

Answer 5

I also have the same issue with  my six year old daughter except she is fine all day. I really dont know what to do about it. Maybe I should just continue to use the pull ups. We discuss the fact that if she did not  wet the bed kids will not pick on her when she sleeps over. She does not drink anything after 6 but still wets the bed after 8 when she goes to sleep.

Answer 6

Maybe the reason that Lil Man wets the bed is because his nerves are bad. Ya'll should talk to him and find out what goes on at home so that way you know what triggers his wet attacks. Also you should stop allowing him to drink liquids after a certain time, hopefully this will lessen up the accidents. You and your guy can also wake him up in the middle of the night to go to the restroom when ya'll go at night.

Last note: I think that ya'll are doing the right thing by not putting him down for the accidents, it won't help the situation.

Answer 7

maybe she is just taking the p*ss no pun intended,but ican give u a star x x

Answer 8

That's unfair to say he can have pull-ups at home, but not with you, sounds like she's delibrately trying to sabbotage his visits to you-make them unpleasant for everyone. Can she really stop him coming to visit? Surely that would take court orders etc, and she would look really stupid saying "well, I don't want him going there, as they put pull-ups on him at night...but he wears them when he's at home with me!".

People here have already given great advice. (limit the drinks etc). Don't let hom have any caffine drinkns, including cola etc, as these can irritate the bladder. Apple juice is also a diuretic.

The other thing you could do is delibratley wake him when you and your partner go to bed-and make him go for a wee.

Stress can play a big part in bedwetting. If the Mum is a bit wierd (sorry, but she sounds like it) is she filling his head with ideas about you and his Dad? Is the fact that his parents are not together stressing him out? Take him on a really good day out, get hom to relax, and see if you can approach the subject of if there is anything playing on his mind?

Has he always had a problem of bedwetting, or has he been dry throught the night-and this is a new thing? If so, look at when it started-and see if there were any changes in his life.

It may be worth taking him to see your GP, as there could be underlaying medical problems, such as UTIs, diabetes, structural abnormalities to the urological system or a neurological problem. These are worse case scenarios-so please don't be alarmed.

I hope you can find some answers, as this must be upsetting for all of you.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Do some research on a condition called 'Nocturnal Eneuresis' Or, night time bed wetting. It is a medical condition and in England their are hospital clinics for it, but it is relatively common, but not normal.

As for the person who says its normal because all of their 3 children do it (including an 11 year old???), it isnt normal and there is a problem with that!!

I doubt the doctor would only say 'stop the pullups' without giving any further advice. Seems a little odd.

A sticker chart might be effective, a sticker for everytime he goes through without wetting, but if its medical and not psychological obviously this will not work.

Good luck

Answer 10

its good that ur not scolding him

but has anything major happened to the family recently because they will react like that?

so good luck

Answer 11

bedwettins is common my 11,8,6 years old also wet the bed

2 boys 1 girl

Answer 12

What causes it?

It's not entirely clear why bed-wetting - known as nocturnal enuresis - occurs. Many people used to believe it was a deliberate act to attract attention, but this isn't the case.

Research suggests there's a mismatch between the balance of night-time urine production and the capacity of the bladder to hold it. The problem runs in families and often one or both parents used to wet the bed too.

Other contributory factors can include anxiety, stress, constipation, urinary tract infection and, occasionally, diabetes or kidney failure.

It may be worth visiting your doctor to rule out any treatable causes. Usually there's no specific reason for wetting the bed but underlying conditions should be excluded.

Daytime enuresis, or loss of bladder control during the day, is less common. When this occurs, there's more likely to be a serious underlying problem.

Who's affected?

With more than a million people suffering in the UK, it's more common than people think. One in six five-year-olds, one in 11 nine-year olds, and between one in 50 and one in 100 people over the age of 15 (including adults) wet the bed at night.

Boys are more likely to suffer than girls, while men and women are equally likely to wet the bed.

In all children, the development of bladder function control and night-time urine production is a slow process, so most children are affected up to the age of three. In fact, bed-wetting is quite common up to the age of eight. In most cases there's a delay in the development of the normal pathways of bladder function control within the brain and nervous system, which eventually mature.

What are the symptoms?

There aren't really any physical symptoms other than waking up to find the bed is wet. Any other symptoms, such as pain on passing urine, indicate a possible underlying cause, such as infection..

There are, however, psychological symptoms. Wetting the bed makes people feel dirty and ashamed. If it's a child who's affected, the parents often feel it's their fault and that they haven't raised their child well enough. This isn't true.

Family tension is common. Children are punished and parents feel guilty, marriages break up under the pressure of disturbed nights, and there's continual excess laundry.

Although many people eventually grow out of the problem, until they do it's a source of misery. Research shows that people with nocturnal enuresis avoid forming relationships, getting jobs, travelling, and suffer low self-esteem and even depression.

What's the treatment?

In children, medical treatment is rarely started before the age of six, but there's plenty the family can try at home. Steps you can take include reassuring the child and explaining that it's a common problem, not done consciously and certainly not naughty.

Don't blame the child or punish them, but take practical steps, such as putting a waterproof sheet on the bed. An enuresis alarm can help condition the child into getting up at night to pass urine. These can be purchased from ERIC (see below) or borrowed from a local enuresis clinic. However, one in three children relapse after a few months.

Medical treatments include antidepressants (used for their affect on enuresis not depression) and nasal sprays of antidiuretic hormone, which concentrates urine at night. They don't cure bed-wetting, but provide temporary relief and are best used on a temporary basis for holidays or sleepovers.

There are also lifestyle changes that prove very effective. These include:

Avoiding caffeinated drinks

Drinking enough liquid during the day and not just once home from school (many children hardly drink at all during the day then drink lots once they get home)

Passing urine twice just before bed - go once, then a second time five or ten minutes later