Bed wetting problem?

Question

my 13 year old cousin was been bed wetting since he was about 8. my aunt seems to have tried everyingthing like an alarm to wake him up or waking him up at night and getting him to go to the toilet at night and pull ups, he also dosnt drink before and goes to the loo before he goes to bed. however every one seems to be persuring him to stop, would this affect it?

Answer 1

This is definitely an issue for a doctor to examine, especially if you've tried different things to wake him up and he doesn't even drink before bed.

Answer 2

If she hasn't done so already I think it's time to take him to his medical doctor to see if there's some kind of problem.

Answer 3

At 13 he could have medical issues. There are physical problems that can cause bed wetting. Some don't even show up until a child gets a little older. He should see a pediatric urologist (get a recommendation from his general practitioner.)

The fact that everyone knows about it is simply embarrassing to him and I think she should button her lip. The whole family shouldn't know about his personal medical troubles.

Answer 4

people deff. shouldn't pressure him to stop.

it's natural (: he can't help it.

maybe have your aunt talk to a doctor to see if there is any sort of meds that could help this, or just have him wear pullups unoticed by anyone so it won't affect his social life (:

good luck for your cousin!

Answer 5

no, because sometimes this is natural thing meaning he has a weak bladder, he should see a doctor because that way he can get medicine to control it and if he listens to the doctor it should stop but it can take a while.

Answer 6

The poor kid should be taken to a doctor to rule out a physical problem.  It's odd that he didn't begin bed wetting until he was 8.  Did he experience a major life change at that time?  That might mean it is a psychological thing.  At any rate, I am certain no 13 yr. old boy WANTS to wet his bed so telling him to just stop it isn't going to help at all, and yes, I think it might make it worse for him by adding to his stress level.

Answer 7

Everyone presurring him to stop could just be making matters worse. It may be nerves from pressure from being yelled at to much. Try getting people to back and it may stop or at least reduce it.

Answer 8

could be a psychological problem

maby bad dreams based on something in real life

id take him to a therapist and see if it helps

Answer 9

I'm not an expert or anything, but im sure the stress about it would add to the problem. I work with kids and I know that when they have added stress or changes at home they have more accidents at school. whenever we have a child start having many pee accidents we always ask the parents what's going on at home and there is always something.  have they taken him to the doctor to see if it's a physical thing?

Answer 10

It's genetic and hereditary. Let him do all his own laundry, make sure his mattress is covered and leave him alone about it. Once puberty hits this should dry up. Maybe he's a late bloomer, but 13 is right at the beginning of puberty. My oldest stopped wetting at 13 or 14. Trust me he feels horrible waking up wet at that age! Being on his case, even out of love, will not only affect him, but is also counter productive. Boys do this, it's just how were wired. He does not do it on purpose, no boy does. Love and accept him for it, its part of who he is. If he could change it, he already would have. Soon it will go away, very very few wet after 14 or 15.

Answer 11

my 11 year old

8 year old and 6 year old all wet the bed my 8 year old daughter is showing signs of stop she still doing it from time to time, my view buy him goodnites unitt he stops

Answer 12

probably

Answer 13

yes, actually the condition is a nervous condition, and he could be upset over something that is affecting him at home.  Does he have a pretty happy life otherwise?  I would just tell him not to stress over it, and have his mom put the plastic sheets down and when he wets the bed, he will be all wet.  Then she changes the sheets when he goes to wake her up to tell her, or maybe he can change them himself.  Enough of this activity will make him stop on his own with out any intervention.  No more pull ups, no more coaxing or even discussing it.  Just be helpful and be supportive, and he will stop himself.  Another problem may be psychological, as I said, and if does not stop, I would take him in to be evaluated.  He may need some medication.

Answer 14

I am sure he would stop if he could. Pressuring him only makes it worse. A trip to the Doctor should be planned to make sure he does not have a medical problem. A bed wetter usually has a parent who also wet the bed. Also, his problem should not be made public.

Answer 15

Maybe he needs to see a docter i would seek help for him at that age

Answer 16

Absolutely! It's a medical fact that most bed wetting is due to trauma or mental distress.  The less stress the better.  He's 13 so I'm sure he knows how how to keep himself clean and deal with the situation when it happens.  If you really want to help, find out what went wrong when this kid was 8.  Something must have happened to him (parents divorce, abuse, moving, loss of friends)  He needs support and stability.  If it's obvious what may have happened to him, he needs to deal with this issue.  Bed wetting is almost never about physical control, it's about mental control. Good luck

Answer 17

Indeed...the pressure will make a huge difference on the child!  Encourage your family to stop messing with the kid about it.  There is probably a deeper physical problem with incontinence going on....encourage your aunt to take the child to a specialist (urologist).  There is medication out there for him.  Pressuring him about it will only make him lose even more confidence, then the whole thing will develop into a mental issue as well.

Also, you did not mention that he had this issue prior to 8 years old, that indicates to me that he may be reaching early puberty and it may not be urinal bed wetting!

Answer 18

yes, he will probably feel under pressure with people going on about it and this will make him more stressed, ask the doctor to prescribe amytriptiline as this works very well,, it dulls the nerve endings so you dont feel like you need the loo so often.

Answer 19

he needs to go to the doctor, there could be a medical problem.  his bladder may be too small for his body.

Answer 20

it might