Bedroom sharing problem?

Question

My daughters have a problem with sharing bedrooms with one another, I have 6 daughters ( 3 are adopted ) and only 4 bedrooms throughout the house. One bedroom is for me and my husband, and another is for my mother who lives with us.

I have 2 bedrooms for 6 girls. Currently I have my 3 biological girls in a room and my 3 adopted girls in the other room. It doesn't seem to be working out very well. Their ages are very far apart.

Alayna - 11 (biological)

Alexis - 11 (biological)

Jennifer - 10 (adopted)

Erica - 7 (adopted)

Aylssa - 5 (biological)

Megan - 4 (adopted)

Putting two 11 year olds and a 5 year old in one room isn't working out very well. Neither is putting a 10, 7, and 4 year old together.

I want the twins in the same room together because they are very close. Also, Alyssa and Megan don't get along very well so I don't want them together.

Im sorry if I sound a little complicated, but I need suggestions on how to put them into their bedrooms. Serious answers please.

Answer 1

I think I would put Alayna, Alexis and Jennifer together in the same room, since they are all very similar in age. I would put Alyssa and Erica in the same room, and, if possible, have Megan share with your Mother or even possibly you and your husband.

Answer 2

Room one: Alayna, Alexis, Megan

Room two: Jennifer, Erica, Aylssa

Or, invest in a bigger house. Personally, I would stick them outside and tell them if they want to live in a house, they can learn to live together.

(Which is why I won't have kids)

Answer 3

Wow, 6 daughters?? That must be a hand full and fun at the same time.

Anyways, Even though Alyssa and Megan don't get along very well, I think that they should be put together so that they can learn to get along.

If I were you, I would put Alayna, Alexis, and Jennifer together. Then Erica, Aylssa, and Megan together. This way their ages are extremely close, only 1 or two years apart. This means they will all be in elementary, middle, or high school ( in a few years ) at the same time so they will see each other at school and live together, and they can help each other with homework.

Eventually Aylssa and megan will learn to get along. Good luck:)

Answer 4

first of all, i think its really great that you adopted.

and especially since you have 3 biological daughters to care for too.

but how big are their rooms? most children in close quarters with another will not get along for long. 2 rooms for 6 children doesnt really seem adequate, so i hope theyre large(:

how often are they in their rooms? if it's just a bedtime thing, you can try bunkbeds and such.

but realistically, you should probably try to group them by age. even if Alyssa and Megan don't get along, theyre going to be living together for a long time right? so they should start learning how to tolerate one another.

Answer 5

put the 3 older girls into one room and the 3 younger girls in the other. When there is such a dramatic difference in age it can cause problems. The older kids will view the younger as very insignificant and will look down. The younger will look up to the older and want to be just like them in every way. This will annoy the c**p outta the older ones because they want to go do "grown up" things without the younger sibling tagging along. It will also be a problem as the girls get older and maybe start having different bedtimes. As for the girls not getting along put them on opposite sides of the room and dedicate a spot for just them. And tell them that they are just gonna have to stick it out. Who knows when they get older they may become the best of friends. I know that me and my sister fought a lot when we had to share a room but as we got older we grew to like each other a lot more and are now practically inseparable even though we are grown women now.

Or you could just get a bigger house  *wink*

Answer 6

I would put the 3 oldest in one room and the 3 youngest in another room. Alyssa and Megan need to learn to get along and sharing a room can actually help them!

Answer 7

biological/adopted should make no difference - you know that

put ones closest in age in the same room

as it is, they're being separated and they will NEVER feel like "real" sisters or a "real" family because you aren't encouraging it; you've got to mix it up and show that all are EQUAL

Answer 8

Put the two 11 year olds in with the 10 year old, they have more in common.  Put the 7 year old in with the 4 and 5 year old.  It doesn't matter that the kids don't get along...sibling rivalry is quite normal especially during puberty which is what the 11 year olds and 10 year old are going through right now.

Answer 9

I would separate them by age groups. that would be more appropriate. put the twins and jennifer in one room, (which will also help thier bond) and the younger girls together in thier own room. give Erin a single bed, and the other two bunks, or give Erin the top bunk, (something to not make her feel like a baby, give her her own space, since she is older than the other two) Then you can also decorate age appropriately, and the younger ones arent going to be learning as much p*****n stuff that they dont need to know yet (boys, earrings, drama, etc)

Answer 10

I would say put the twins in one room with the 10 year old because they are all about the same age, and then put the three younger girls together. Alyssa and Megan need to learn to get along. The more you separate them, the more you feed their belief that they don't have to get along.