Bedwetting question?

Question

my son and daughter wets there bed. how many dry nights in a row should the have before they can stop wearing there goodnites to bed

Answer 1

Most other posters have stated the obvious about limiting drinks before bed time.You should also make sure they go to the washroom before bed. You could also get the children up to check  on the bahroom before you turn in for the night. There used to be monitors that could be used that wake the child up if they start to wet the bed.Have you ever discussed this problem with your family doctor? Children of a certain age are very sensitive about this issue.In the meantime use a plastic matress protector to help save your matrsses.Most importantly don't embarass your children about this.I don't think you would be asking for our input if you didn't put your children first.Sometimes it just takes time.Take care.

Answer 2

You didn't mention how old they are..

Kids usually out grow the problem in time. If they are young it may take awhile. Have patience with them. Getting mad only makes it worse.   And did you know children who wet the bed usually have a parent that also used to be incontinent at nite.

Lots of children suffer from this problem. Let them wear their Goodnites until they don't need them anymore.

Answer 3

I think it's about a week or two. Good luck.

Answer 4

Hi, if your children sleep a few nights without wetting the bed then I would go ahead and try to take them off of the goodnites. If you don't feel ready then give it a week or so, or just try it for a night and see how they do. They might  be so proud of themselves that they might try harder to not wet the bed. Good luck!

Answer 5

until you feel confident they are no longer needed.

Answer 6

by brother did the same thing, wouldnt let them have any drink about an hour before bed and made him go to the bathroom before the went to sleep, but it may vary, children are all different

Answer 7

I would wait for a full week of dry nights. Then be sure to protect the mattress since they may have an occasional accident

Answer 8

You might not hear parents of older children talking about it, but bedwetting is more common than you imagine – about ten percent of children aged five will wet their bed nearly every night. It’s frustrating for you, and your child may be scared, sad and embarrassed.



Try to be patient – bedwetting is not her fault (or yours, for that matter!), and try to treat it as a challenge you work on together rather than a problem. In the majority of cases, bedwetting will stop eventually and there are things you can do to help. Your child isn’t lazy or a slob and shouldn’t be disciplined for wetting the bed. Bedwetting, or enuresis, has many causes: your child’s nervous system may not have developed enough to allow her night time control over her bladder, she may be under stress or be anxious about something, or, more rarely, she may have urinary tract troubles which make her urinate more regularly.

Children of all ages wet the bed. It’s a condition which some think may be inherited. If bedwetting is sustained over a period of time, it’s important to check with your GP that there’s nothing medically wrong with your child. Your GP can also suggest local help, and may be able to refer you to a bedwetting advice group. With a little training, some practical measures and a lot of support, most children are able to stop wetting the bed in time.

Before you start, make it clear to your child you’re not angry, you’re just trying to help, and make sure you listen and get her on board with any new measures.

If you suspect that the bedwetting is stress-related – if there’s a change in family structure, you’ve moved home or your child is experiencing bullying, for example – try to work on this anxiety before you start on a new regime.

Staying dry and exercising control over the bladder (using her pelvic floor muscles) during the day might help – give her a timer or a watch with an alarm and see if you can prolong time between her toilet trips by 10 minutes each day.

Offer sips of drinks from about 4pm and nothing at all to drink one and a half hours before bedtime.

Try to avoid putting your child in pull-ups or a diaper – it might help that they can feel when they’re wet at night time.

Make sure you have the right protective sheeting and lots of sheets and night wear. Leave a low light on so your child can see her way to the toilet.

Once your child wets the bed, ask her to help you change herself and the bed sheets, remembering to stay sympathetic and gentle.

Some people use buzzers or alarms attached to night wear, which are triggered by moisture, so she can get up and go to the loo. The aim is to ‘re-program’ the brain to alert her to wake before she has to use the toilet.

Others say that once a child is old enough for sleepovers, there is an initial period of embarrassment as she inevitably wets the bed, but that overnight stays can act as a catalyst for retraining. It may take some time to find a solution that works for your child, and you can bet that your child is finding it much more difficult than you are! Try to remain patient, don’t focus on the failures and seek support – there’s a thread on our forum if you want to share bedwetting stories now.

Answer 9

Betting wetting is common.  I remember wetting the bed at a friends house when we were in 4th grade.  It is a problem I outgrew.  My oldest son now has the same problem.  He is 7.  Someone earlier mentioned an alarm.  Please don't ever do that to your children.  I had one and it was awful. It did not help me wake up and use the bathroom.  It did manage to wake everyone in the house so they knew I was having a problem.  That just increased the shame and I think made my problem worse.  Sometimes there are medical issues that need to be addressed.  You can talk about these with your childs dr.