Been a player,the difference between men and women?

Question

I often hear women complain that men who are players are viewed as s***s and women who do the same thing are viewed negatively, i have been doing some thinking and i think i know why people feel this way....usually it's the man that does the courting, the man is the guy that has to impress the girl enough to get with him in the first place (in the clubs girls are more likely to be hit on by guys than vice versa) thus when a guy is successful he is respected by other guys who also set out to do the same thing (impress women in order to get with them), women on the other hand do not necessarily have to go out and get guys, usually guys will hit on them and it would be up to the women to decide whether they would get with the guy or not they do not actually have to go out of their way to impress guys to get with them, all they need to do usually is look good thus if a woman sleeps with most of the guys that go after her she is not viewed the same way as the guys because she is not

Answer 1

I think you are way off base.  Alot of men think women are s***s if they make the first move or know too much about s*x(whatever that means).

Answer 2

I think that's oversimplifying it. The terms "s**t" and "w***e"  come from a time long before the prowess of men's dating technique was even applicable.

When a woman debates the distinction between a female "s**t" and a male "playa" what she is debating is patriarchal viewpoints of a woman's sexual need--not the importance of the words. Calling a man a "s**t" is just as bad IMO as calling a woman a "s**t," and worse--it continues to negate the human need for sexual contact.

Answer 3

Fair enough, but that doesn't excuse the fact that women get calles nasty sl*ts and whores if they have to much s*x. It's almost like saying the only way a woman can gain respect is by withholding s*x.I think all single people, male or female, should be able to have s*x with whovever they like so long as they are safe.

Answer 4

I think you probably have a point about why our society judges men and women differently. But I also think this whole discussion is indicative of how puerile and immature we are about s*x.

If I want s*x, and I'm not married or partnered, I'm going to get s*x. I couldn't give a toss what people think. I'm a grown woman, I know how to use condoms and I have neither time nor inclination to beg for the approval of judgmental hypocrites before I do so.  

Any woman who looks to society for approval of her actions will always disappoint someone, somewhere.