Been married for 5yrs & hubby says he THINKS he wants tobe single butkeeps changing his mind - what do i do?

Question

I've been married for 5 years and my husband recently told me that he THINKS he MIGHT want to be single. But he keeps changing his mind. One minute he says he wants to be able to do whatever he wants (including going to the bar, hanging with friends, and being with other women) and the next minute he says he has hope that we can work things out and stay together.

I am so confused and don't know what to do. Can someone help me?

Answer 1

Write down a list of his good points, and his bad points in his personality. And if the bad points are higher, then separate.

Answer 2

Separate.  He is having a case of "the grass is greener".

Answer 3

maybe he does want to be single and free. but my advice would be to keep ur eyes open and watch for changes in his behavior. because if he's telling u he wants to be with other women then don't be surprised if hes starts cheating. or he may be scared to divorce but just talk to him about his feelings.

Answer 4

leave him if he cant decide if he wants to be with u then he doesn't love u. u can find better someone who knows without a doubt in his mind he loves u. u dont realize what u what untill its gone and if he realizes that he made a mistake u better make him him walk there hoops the ice and fire of h**l and anything else u can think of. i recommended the book why men love b*****s (yes its really called that)  

Answer 5

Work what things out?  if you two have issues, get with a counselor.  Counselors are neutral and can act as referees.  They see troubled marriages all the time and can literally teach both of you to communicate better about wants and don't wants.   Your husband sounds like has already been unfaithful in some way such that his s*x partner has made him "fall in love" again.  "fall in love" means "fall in s*x".  not unusual for a guy grow accustomed to the same old s*x so that a new set of reactions from a different woman produce new feelings in him.   set that aside for now and get a counselor.  you can bring the s*x thing up later.  Good Luck.

Answer 6

convince him  to go to  counseling with you and then he can decide what he wants to do and so can you after you both have given counseling a good try. Trial seperation after that may be good.

Answer 7

he must have some kinda issues to work out try a sepperation for a while give him the space he needs and if he wants to split up then so be it

Answer 8

you two need to sit down and see where your relationship stands. see if theirs anything worth salvaging.