Been together 11 yrs should i forgive my husband that cheated?

Question

been together 11 yrs

Answer 1

time together does not matter...it is not forgiveable.

5 years from now, you'll regret being with him....and the feeling of  bewilderment you have now, will turn into anger , rage and mistrust for him.

Get out now...and start a new life.

Answer 2

so what....why not cheat on him...obviously he was bored w/ you...if you forgive him he just gotten the best of you and that other little piece off *** that most likely he will fuq again!

Answer 3

totally your call.  

Answer 4

Follow your heart and not your mind!

Answer 5

Do you feel like you can trust him again, will you always be waiting for him to do it again, its like forbidden fruit once they taste it , they want it again, can you live with it

Answer 6

Yes it's forgivable but it'll be hard to build that trust back up. I know you still love him and don't want to leave him or you wouldn't have come here, you'd just left. If he is sorry that it happened (not just sorry because he got caught but because it happened) then your marriage can be saved. So please don't listen to the others on here that apparently have no forgiveness in them, but listen to your heart. 11 years is a long time these days so don't throw all that time away. Now that being said, if he wants to still see her or is not sorry, then it's a different matter but still it's your call. Don't let anyone persuade to do something that you know from your heart that you shouldn't. Turn to Jesus and ask Him because He will lead you to do the right thing, and remember this. That Jesus is all about forgiveness. I wish you the best.

Answer 7

if recently no i just found out my husband cheated on me 4 years ago before we got married and it is really hard to forgive something that happened that long ago but i think if it happened recently you might regret your decision later cause your marriage is bast on trust and being faithful to eachother

Answer 8

11 IS JUST A NUMBER.....THE QUESTION YOU SHOULD BE ASKING YOURSELF IS ..WHEN HE WALKS OUT YOUR DOOR EVERYDAY OR NIGHT WITHOUT YOU ....WILL YOU OR CAN YOU TRUST HIM...? IF YOU HAVE A KNUDGE IN YOUR GUT THAT TELLS YOU..HE CANT BE TRUSTED...THERES YOUR ANSWER..FORGIVING IS FREEING BUT WITHOUT TRUST IN A MARRIAGE IT WON'T WORK..LOVE JUST AINT ENOUGH OR BETTER SAID...11YRS JUST AINT ENOUGH

Answer 9

This is the only legitimate reason for divorce. If your husband decided to join his flesh with another woman, you don't have to forgive. But, if there is love... love forgives all.

Answer 10

For the kids, if u already have, and if your really love him, go.  Give him another chance, and if ever he'll do it again, well, its the time to give the ultimatum.

Answer 11

Honestly, I don't know what to tell you, I don't like to tell people to break up. This does hurt me, even though I don't know you because I believe marriages are supposed to faithful but he didn't love you enough to say no, he cheated. He was wrong and it's sad that you're paying for that now. I'm sorry.

I wish I could help you more, I really do... my heart is with you,

Answer 12

was it a one time thing or a affair youhave to decied if youwant to stay or not if he cheated once he will again  

Answer 13

That's your choice,

Nobody can make that decision for you.