Been together two years, and he broke off the engagement yesterday, what to do? He has been married before...

Question

We have been together for two years, we were engaged. He broke off the engagement last night. He said that he thinks its too soon. We were not getting married until next year in October. Why would he let me start making plans, and now I have to tell family, friends... What to do? He still wants to stay together, I'm not sure! HELP!!!!

Answer 1

Say "Adios."

When you start up with someone, there are only 3 possible outcomes.

You can break up

You can get married

One of you can die.

Nobody died

You didn't marry anyone who is inappropriate or incapable of making a commitment.

You won.

The leading cause of divorce is that the wrong people married each other.

Answer 2

Don't worry. De world is huge, find & u wil get right one.In this world don't search search search for a long time.

    IF U DOES NOT GET WHAT U LIKE ATLEAST U MUST LIKE WHAT U GET.

RAJ  

Answer 3

maybe he is afraid but if he is not giving you what you want and has broken a promiss to you maybe you should evaluate your relationship with him and you decide if he is the right one for you!

Answer 4

Before you go dumping him, I would really talk to him about what’s going on.  Maybe he’s feeling some sort of anxiety over the whole wedding planning.  If he didn’t want to be with you, he would have called off the engagement AND said let’s break up.  

I think you owe it to yourself and your engagement to really figure out what’s going on.  You can decide from there what you want to do.

Answer 5

Before you break it off, see if he's just getting cold feet. Maybe if you push the date to 2010, then it would relieve his stress. But, if after your conversation, he gives some bs answer..then I think you should break it off.

Answer 6

dump him then sleep with his best friend.

Answer 7

Let him go...if after two years he commits and then breaks it, he sounds like he will never commit.  

There are more and better fish in the sea.

Answer 8

Dump him....he's not ready to commit yet to anyone. You sound like you want to get married and settle down. Find a guy who wants the same things you do.

Move on.

Answer 9

You must be very upset and heartbroken. But believe me you have had a lucky escape.

He is probably not the type to be tied down. He may be one to want freedom.

Just get out of the relationship; hard but best to do. If he loves you, he will be back and says he wants to marry. Otherwise he will feel free and run. You will be better off that way.

Telling family and friends is no big deal. Take your time over it. Relax, they will sympathize with you. If some say, " I told you so", take it: they only mean well.

You should NOT live with him any more. He wants to have the cake and eat it too. He wants the easy way out.

Then tallk to him. Say you do not want to live together. That, when he is ready to marry, he can come back.

Difficult, but get away.

Answer 10

You guys need to have a really good talk about what you want out of your relationship.  Re-evaluate what you guys want and then decide if you want to stay together.

Don't just break it off yet unless he doesn't want to talk it out or unless he gives some indication in the conversation that he may never want to commit.

He may just need a little more time.  Maybe you guys can talk to a counselor or your minister if you attend a church.

Good luck!

Answer 11

It's simple: he doesn't want to marry you. He'll sleep with you and enjoy your time and company, but he doesn't care enough to make a commitment.  Are you going to accept that or look for better? It's all up to you.

Answer 12

Think about it, is it too soon? Do you have the nagging feeling that he just doesn't want to marry you? Listen to your gut. If it says yes, consider how important marriage is to you and if not being married is something you can live with. If you can't then let him go. You can't change how he feels about it. If it says no then, I'm not sure how far into your planning you are but you can always tell people that because of the economy you're changing the date.  

Answer 13

i have the same problem..my fiance is fine with being engaged but we have been engaged for 2 years because he is afriad of commitment...we even live together and have a daughter! Some guys just need alittle push....tell him that this was unfair for you to do and that your not saying you need to get married this month but a date needs to be set to let you know that he is really commited!

Answer 14

just tell them that you have postpone the wedding and that your fiance doesn t think he is ready to get married.

Answer 15

Seriously?

Dump him breaking off the engagement and then continue the relationship is just drawing out the inevitable.

I did stay when we broke off our engagement. Basically the trust and respect were gone.

Answer 16

The same thing happened to me; it will be hard, but leave him.  You'll be wasting your time if you stay with him.