Being a housewife is a waste?come on!!?

Question

iam a 27 yr old lady.i got married when i was 21 and i have been a housewife since then.iam married to this wonderful man who does not expect anything from me .all he askes in return is a smile on my face after he comes home from work.recently my inlaws and some relatives were insulting my homemaker status and saying iam waste my life and iam useless etc etc.i still don't have kids.so these das iam trying to hard to find some decent work ,trying hard for kids and the atmosphere at home is horrible,.what is wrong being an young housewife?

Answer 1

It is unfortunate that being a housewife with or without kids has turned into something undesirable.  It is not an easy job.  Just because a woman doesn't want to be a CEO does not make her any less.  We have choices as a woman.  Staying home is one of them.  I believe it is an enviable choice.  Stick to your guns and don't let the less informed get you down.  Only you can allow people to make you less than you are.  Most of the women who put you down would kill to be in your position I'm sure.  Go with it.

Answer 2

Being a housewife usually comes with taking care of the house and/or the kids.   It really does sound like you are wasting your life away.  What DO you do at home?    I am a childless full-time student, part-time intern, and can still get my chores done and enjoy some TV.  However, if I am off school and work for even a few days, I get bored.   I'm surprised you haven't been bored out of your mind by now.  You don't necessarily need to get a job, but you should do something.  Otherwise you may have a midlife crisis quite early in life.  If you can't find a job, why not go volunteer somewhere?  Do something to keep yourself busy.

Another important reason to have some job experience is to plan ahead. What if your husband cannot work anymore?  NO ONE is bringing home the paycheck then.

By the way, I'm not jealous of housewives.  If I'm off work and school at the same time for more than 2 days, I am bored out of my mind.  I have also had a time where I was not employed or going to school.  Staying at home childless doing chores all day and putting on a happy Suzie Homemaker smile for my husband would make me bored and depressed.

Answer 3

I think anyone man or woman should work. It builds character.

You should never live "for" someone else to make them happy. & you should never rely on someone else for your support.

If something ever happens...he leaves you, dies, etc. You have nothing & no job skills on top of that.

You are young, no kids. Get a job. Live for yourself also. Not just your husband.

I'm not trying to sound harsh. Just trying to give you a reality check.

Answer 4

A few things.  1.  You should only want children if you want them not because some annoying in-laws tell you that you are useless and you feel the need to find meaning in something.  2.  Nothing is wrong with staying at home if you are good with it and not harming anyone.  However, how do you know if you will ever find anything more rewarding if you don't try something else.  3.  This is a very dangerous situation to be in.  You will not be young forever and the older you get the harder it becomes to start something new.  4.  Your husband decides to look at another pretty smile and no longer support your lazy behind, you have nothing else to fall back on except working as a cashier at Kmart.  Which is not a bad job but you probably would want to prepare yourself with other opportunities too.

Answer 5

They're probably jealous they have kids and have to work and you don't

Answer 6

Thats called jealousy.

unless you are at home being a princess, while hubby goes out to work 2 jobs to afford an overextended mortgage and 2 BMW payments...

that doesnt sound like the case.  However, those of you out there that do the 2nd..you knowww whoooo youuuu areeeeee

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong. Your Inlaws are just ignorant and I have learned to ignore those kind of people in your life as hard as it may be because of who they are. And again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a housewife. Sorry to hear about your situation

Answer 8

Nothing, except that if your husband decides tomorrow that he wants to leave you then you'll have no money, no job prospects and from what you say you probably won't be able to rely on the in-laws so I suggest you find a job asap and start hiding away some money for that rainy day.  Good luck.

Answer 9

Ive been a housewife for 18 years.  I have encountered some of the rudest comments EVER from friends, family, aquaintances, strangers.  I used to get so very upset and worked up but I have found that if their gonna be rude then tell them how spolied you are, how much you adore being able to stay at home and manage the household and pursue your interests and say it with a big smile. Im proud to stay at home...

Answer 10

If you are talented or educated, it's good to work and keep yourself independent in case something bad happens. If you have a rich husband it's fine to be a housewife. If you are happy, why care about what others say. Better still tell them to shut up and mind their own business. It's your life, and you don't  depend on them for your livelihood nor your happiness. Stop associating with these people. They are toxic.

Answer 11

Nothing is wrong with it.  You're not useless.  In America we are allowed to make our own choices and as long as you and your husband are happy then they should keep their opinions to themselves.