I'm 13 and I have 4-month-old twin daughters (Alexis and Juliana). Last school year I was homeschooling and this year I'm homeschooling again, so the girls could grow up a little before I leave them for half a day with somebody else. My mother lost custody (it's a long story) and I live with my 2 best friends - 23yo Becky and 28yo Jake (and Jake's 19-month-old daughter Gabby). Jake and Becky work all day and I'm with the 3 kids all day. During day, besides the food and the potty (I put the twins on the potty as often as they have to go and Gaby goes to her potty when she needs), we play a lot with the girls, especially with Gabby who is old enough to play more than the twins. We go out, I take the twins in the baby carriage and hold Gabby's hand (she usually walks beside me). Sometimes my boyfriend comes with me, takes his almost 5yo brother and we go to the park. My boyfriend and I have all the time in the world while, of course, we keep an eye on the kids and play with them if they are bored playing together (it's rare, they have fun together, my bf's brother likes to take Gabby and go to different places and she follows him). In the evening (at 18:00) Jake and Becky come home (they work together) and both of them or one of them takes care of the kids and make me go and have fun with friends. I go out and return in 3 hours, usually at 9pm (I'm still breastfeeding in the evening) - just on time to breastfeed the twins and put the to sleep. While going out, I have fun and my friends and I do so many tings. I don't find being a teenager as only boys, the mall and stupid conversations about nothing worth. That's probably why all my friends are older but I don't mind. I haven't been robber of any childhood or teen years or anything. Being a teen mom doesn't ruin my life or something like that. My life changed but didn't ruin - it became even better and worth. Now I don't remember my life without the twins and I think this life I have now is way better than the one I had before. That's my question - why do you people think that being a parent in your teen years ALWAYS ruins your life? It's like saying that having a boy ruins your life and only having a girl is the way it has to be. But having a boy makes your life different, not ruined or something. That's why my life is not ruined - just changed and I like this change. It's wonderful! Many parents don't realize how lucky they are to have their kids and I realize that. Why having a baby in your teen years has to ruin your life? Why do you think it's like that with all girls? Maybe a baby would ruin many girls' lives but a baby would also make wonderful many girls' lives. That's my question - why do you stereotype?
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