Being emotional and stressed in last couple of weeks..MEN AND WOMENS POINT?

Question

I'm due October 7th, with our first little girl, she is my WORLD and i am VERY VERY VERY excited and READY and i pray everyday to God, that she is perfect, and i have a WONDERFUL family, but there is one problem, I'm extremely emotional/stressed!!! i want everything to be perfect when she gets here, i always keep our house cleaned and perfect, just in case she comes early! My boyfriend doesn't make it better though, and I'm wondering if he may be the problem??? Example: his work sch is CRAZY and he is off every Friday, but loves to spend this time with his friends which is FINE but they drink every SINGLE weekend, sometimes ALL weekend (staying up until 4 or 5 in the morning), and i HATE it, he doesn't help me with dishes, clothes, he says I'm always complain, never happy, talks about my weight, jokes about having s*x with other girls and just says nasty stuff when he is with his friends (which i think if VERY disrespectful) but it has gotten to the point to where he spends 2 hours out of the whole day with me and he feels he has done his job at spending time with me..like all i get is 2 hours, and NO MORE??? Im just confused, am i being over dramatic or what??? I just want our baby to be perfect and I'm always stressing myself out about how things can go wrong (like the umbilical cord wrapping around her neck or her being a stillborn..I'm so SCARED, SHE is my EVERYTHING and i will do everything for her, i just want her to be perfect..PLS give me advice/ opinions...

Answer 1

First off, your boyfriend is an a**hole.  The way he is treating you is completely disrespectful and actually pretty cruel to make comments about your weight or having s*x with someone else.  I think you should dump him because you deserve better.  He is causing you too much stress and he isn't even worth it.

Answer 2

Try not to worry too much.  And do clean but don't make that your entire life.  Your boyfriend may help you with household chores if he feels that that isn't ALL you two are doing together.  Plan an evening out, to the movies, out to dinner, or doing something you BOTH will have fun doing.  Just because you are expecting your daughter soon doesn't mean your relationship needs are not still there.... Talk to him about his drinking and talk to him about what bothers you.  At this point he may be feeling like it is no fun to hang around you anymore because all you do is worry about the baby, the clean house, etc.  It's a nesting stage and is natural for women but some men may not understand this or be very sentimental.

Answer 3

First, Congratulations!  How exciting!

Second, try to relaaaaaax.  You've made it this far in your pregnancy and the odds are heavily in your favor that your little girl IS perfect.  Your constant stress and worry is probably the thing that could endanger her most, by keeping your blood pressure high and releasing a steady flow of stress hormones into your blood.  Again, relaaaaaaax.  That's the BEST thing you can do for your unborn child.  And remember that you aren't able to control every minute detail, especially once baby arrives.  You're going to have to learn how to let go and trust - a LOT.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but your boyfriend doesn't sound like a winner.  He may think that your stress is driving him away to spend more time with his friends than with you, but from his behavior it doesn't sound like he is very ready to be a father.  I hope that he changes once baby is actually here.  If he doesn't, and he is an absentee father and spends all of his time partying once she's arrived, I'd boot him.  

For now, though, focus on yourself and your baby and staying (say it with me now) relaaaaaaxed. :)

Congrats and good luck!

Answer 4

Umm yeah definitely he is the problem. Dont let people get to you like that! He may be taking this baby thing a different way then you are. When she comes I garontee he will be the light of his day, and if he decides not to be there then thats too bad for him. Dont ever let a man treat you badly ESPECIALLY when you are pregnant. That's so not right and that probably is why its making you think all this. But try NOT to think like that. If your doctor says your baby is doing great and the heartbeat is strong and she moves alot then by all means she is going to be the most wonderful baby girl in the world! Dont doubt me I went through similar things like that and my due date is this Tuesday September 2nd and TRUST ME I am terrified of things happening like that. I just pray and thank god for bringing me such a precious little girl.

Answer 5

Honestly, I think you should leave him. Your pregnant and you dont need that stress. yes its ok for you to stress and want things to be perfect but he needs to do his part to make you feel comfortable. It almost sounds just like my situation with my sons father. But you need to do what you need to d to keep yourself healthy and that means dont be stressed with his bullshit. Leave him, and if he really cares and loves you he will make at least an effort 2 change...good luck, and remember to put yourself and your baby first.

Answer 6

uhhhh no. i would def. have a talk with him... ask him if is friends are having his baby girl?! because if so, he needs to move in with them. tell him how you feel in a calm manner, not a frenzy (which we seem to do pretty well... lol) and let him know that you are serious. talk slowly and sternly if you have to. he needs to think as highly of the pregnancy as you do. good luck sweetheart! <3 ~H