Being obssessed to your partner?

Question

I have lots of fantasies about finding a perfect man.

The problem is, I fantasize about him too much, and I will try spending way too much time with him.

I know it is also an important to allow a little distance between me and my lover, so we can have some time for ourselves.

But all I think about is loving him. I think this is medically an obsession.

Here are my questions.

1. Is being obsessed to the lover a common thing happening to the other people?

2. Do you think in the case of love, it is okay to spend huge amount of time, looking like an obsession?

3. Do you recommend any good website or book for my case?

If I have found my perfect love, then I will want to see him almost everyday, and love him really hard.

Many people seem to like to keep a little distance between individuals. I have many experiences that people expressing I am too sticky to them.

Please give as much advices as possible.

Thanks!

Answer 1

1 yes 2 no 3 misery Rosanne the TV series she plays the lead.

there is no such animal as the perfect man.

there is Mr wright or Mr right now & i would not even hold my breath for the first one

make the best of each day that you are alive life is short

oh and love the one your with if you cannot find the perfect one

Answer 2

First of all remember that love is never an 'Obsession', but an 'Experience'. Still there is a void in each of us that can only be filled by someone else. However, far too often, we make a mold as to who this void should be filled with... and then try to cram those that we are interested in into the mold. This can seem to work well at first as we fit in all the parts that go in easily, but then become quite frustrating when the other parts don't fit!

Having an idea of what you want in your life if very important, but as the old saying goes, "Be careful of what you want... you just might get it!" What we want and what we need to be happy are often two different things. You must keep in mind that Love is a growing experience. The attraction may come quickly... but attractions will quickly fade and you are left with all the remaining attitudes and attributes of a person, and too often they are not as attractive to deal with! There will be many 'attractions' that come in and out of your life while searching for the right one.

So start with you!!! Make yourself someone who you like, someone who you can love, and someone who you can be proud of. Become 'obsessed' with becoming who you truly are and enjoying that person. Build up your own self-confidence to where you know that you have just as much to offer someone else... as you hope they will have to offer you!

Still in planning our your 'Perfect One', here is an article that will help to open your eyes a little and give you a different way to look:

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But again, it all starts with 'You' and making sure you are comfortable with who you are. You should not need anyone else to 'make' you happy... Only someone else to add to your happiness. So balance your life with friends, adventures, group activities, and however you see God. Find a good balance in these things and you won't have to obsess after love... it will simply come and find you!

Good luck to you!

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