Being threatened, what can I do to protect myself?

Question

A few years ago, I did some things I'm not proud of. It involved me having an affair with a woman who was also married. Their marriage ended, mine is still going on. Her ex husband makes comments to her and me through email that stop just short of coming out and saying something that is physically threatening, but says things like, I know where you live, we're going to be even one day, stuff like that. He always stops short of explicitly saying he's going to hurt me or something. The woman I had an affair with says that he has hired private investigators to follow me and my wife around. I don't want to get a restraining order, I don't even know if I could get one, but I still don't want my wife to find out what happened. Basically what I want to know is this:

At what point can I go to the police and have him arrested?

Answer 1

i hate to say this but the police wouldnt do anything untill he has actually done anything to harm you but if i was you change your email address move house and get on with your life and then you wont have to worry

Answer 2

For your house, I would suggest a .45 acp semi-auto handgun loaded with hollowpoints or perhaps a 12 gauge shotgun.  For concealed carry, you might want to carry something a little smaller like 9mm, .40 or maybe the newer .357 sig.  The Glocks are nice, or even the Springfield XD series.

Don't forget to go the gun range regularly to keep up your skills.

Don't waste your time with the police, they can't help you.  

And I recommend to quit s******g people's wives.

Answer 3

what r u a *****

go confront him the fuks wrong with u  

Answer 4

you have no legal grounds to get him arrested,,, all he can get is a warning from the police for harrasment,, make sure you logg the emails for the future and hope for the best,,having your wife in the dark might not be a good idea because if hes a real f**t he can approach her and tell her his side and if she doesnt know yet your side will all be a lie,, come clean and then work together,,if you dont come clean you will look like the bad guy if he does tell her, dont let him have that power over you..

Answer 5

At some point you may have to tell your wife, especially if you think her life is in danger, too.  And the guy that answered before me is right; the police won't do anything until after the fact, however it's probably a good idea to make them aware of this situation and have it all on file.  You have to decide what you'd do to protect you home and family.  

Answer 6

If harassment or stalking is a crime where you are, have him charged if you can prove it to police or the magistrate if you have one where you live. If you feel this man is a threat, you can move outside of his reach to another town/city or even state elsewhere if that is feasible.

If he is a imminent threat, I'd consider purchasing a weapon if legal where you are in .38 Special or better for revolvers, 9mm or better for semi-autos, a shotgun in 20 gauge or larger(12 preferred) and a rifle in .223/5.56mm or better. I would practice with said weapons often to maintain some skill to use them and take classes on the use of deadly force and self defense.  

I'd try the legal options first, moving away second, and purchasing a weapon last. And document everything, this can go a long way to proving a case

Answer 7

just spam him on your emails change your number, Game Over, he can only get to you as long as you are taking his messages!!