Being too frank ruined a friendship?

Question

My (unofficial) best friend and I have gone through a rough period of fighting, and only recently did it stop. This summer though, we've finally been acting like the best friends we are until I gave her this letter where I told her how I felt about her (SO STUPID). I don't exactly remember what I wrote, but apparently she freaked out. She told me to just give her some space and not push it; meanwhile, she's been ignoring me. Do I really just leave her alone for awhile?

Answer 1

I think since  youu said you are best friends you should kind of understand where she's coming from like what if she would have gave you a letter! you see what I mean? Just give her, her space. See where things go from there. If it doesn't work out yall truely weren't the best of friends yall were just close!!! GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Yes, leave her alone because keeping at her is only gonna make things worst. She's upset over something that was in the letter you wrote( too bad you can't remember what you said)  

You said in the letter you told her how you felt about her, ok did you list or say something like. I like you but you talk too much, or your sometimes nosy, you have bad taste in clothes, I think you should do this with you hair.

I mean sometimes telling a person things about them self that bothers you it hurts they're feelings or p**s them off.

It's like when a woman ask her husband " does this dress make me look fat? or how old do I look? those are lose lose questions. Sometimes it's best not to say anything because it might get you in trouble with that person.

I just hope she stops being mad and you and she will become friends again. If you and she become friends again talk with her about this and tell her that it hurts you when she gets so mad at you and you mean no harm.

Good Luck

Answer 3

I think you should. I know everyone says that honesty is best, but when it comes to friends, they can be offended by TOO much honesty.

You did what you thought was right, so don't beat yourself up about this. Good Luck.

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Answer 4

Yeah, I think you should just give her some space for a while.

But then again if I were you I would probably keep following her around and asking for her forgiveness (but this might just make her madder)

anyway, if you really dont want to lose her as a friend maybe you could just buy her something that she likes and apologize.

I think my last idea is the best :)

hope I helped.

Answer 5

Yes, leave her alone.  You've obviously hurt her very badly and she needs to evaluate about how she feels about your relationship.  Depending on what you said (and it was very stupid to give it to her) she may decide that she doesn't want you as a friend.  Perhaps you should evaluate your feelings and why you wrote and thought those things.  It may be that you guys did not have a solid relationship in the first place or that one or both of you have changed enough that a friendship is not viable.  I hope not, for your sake, because true friendship is hard to find.  And I hope you learn from your mistake and try to think before you unduly upset someone in the future.

Answer 6

give her a little space then slowly start talking to her