Best friend + boy friend = good or bad???

Question

my best friend and my boy friend hav become best friends now which i dont really mind but i cant stand being around both of them together they drive me nuts ... apart i can handle it but put them together and its a nightmare. is this normal should i jus deal wit it or wut should i do

Answer 1

You have to figure out why you can't stand having them both around at the same time.  Are you afraid your best friend and you boy friend are getting too close and you will pushed out of the picture?  Do they just get into private jokes and really silly behavior you find it hard to tolerate and wouldn't like even if they were two girls?

Whatever the reason, you have to decide something.  A best friend doesn't steal your boy friend and your boy friend, if it is serious, can't be lured away.  If either of these things are going on, you would be best to drop both of them and let go on their way.

Then look for a true best friend, not just someone you like to pal around with, but someone who shares with you and you can share with her and both of you know what's off limits.  Then, find a boy friend who is content to only have eyes for you.

If you feel something is going on and you talk with your girl friend and she brushes you off or calls you silly; same for your boy friend, you are probably being taken advantage of.

Sometimes this stuff just happens when we are young.

Answer 2

I understand that that prolly is hard for you but imagine if they didn't get along at all? imagine if they hated each other and didn't want you to ever be around the other one? I think you should be grateful. This way you get to spend time with your boyfriend and your bestfriend at the same time and don't have to worry about the other one getting jealous. Or if it's really bothering you, talk to one of that. They will both understand and respect your difficutly because its your bestfriend and your boyfriend, they both love you. They care about what you think and want you to be happy.  

Answer 3

umm..this doesnt sound strange to you...your bf and your best friend becoming best friends...coming from a guy if my g/f became best friends with by best friend i would start wondering why they are hanging out so much..

Answer 4

it can't be a terrible thing that the two most important people in your life get along with each other, it has to mean something right? what exactly bothers you about it. this could possibly be because they may have the same personality traits so multiply that by two and it could get irritating...i wouldn't say anything to either of them because not only is it good that they get along, but if they're friends and they enjoy each others presence, then do you really want to be the person to break up their friendship?