Best friend causing problems in my life...?

Question

I was happy with my job. Seriously happy, for the first time in a long time. I love what I do. I love the people I work with, and they love me too. But then I made the mistake of getting my best friend of 10 years a job there. Don't get me wrong, he's good at his job, he's a really great guy at heart, but he's a player.

So far he's slept with 2 of my co-workers (who are in relationships) in the same day. Then he slept with one of my supervisors tonight (who is in a relationship). My best friend is the kind of guy who loses interest quick. One of my co-workers is in denial. Another gets crazy depressed now. My friendship with both have deteriorated at this point. One of them even blamed me initially when my best friend lost interest.

Right now, I'm disgusted. I know all of my co-worker's significant others. I've lost respect for my 3 co-workers, who I am sad to know are cheaters, and my best friend, who has no problem being the cheatee. I think it raises his confidence (he's not really confident, but pretends.). I feel he's put me in a bad position though. It's actually caused me to not like my job as much. I've argued with him about it because this has effected me too, but he refuses to see my points, and is acting so selfish. He's been like this ever since he started working with me and it is driving me crazy.

I'm planning on telling him on Monday that he needs to change his act. That what he's doing isn't cool. That he needs to put himself in my shoes and see how he's messing up my life too.

Answer 1

Not nice a position to be in at all, However In reality you have to separate work and pleasure. Put your work first in this situation not your friendship. You’re not responsible for this person’s behaviour. Secondly tell him if he is going to continue with this behaviour He can’t be a friend of your period. Don’t discus it further than that. Don’t give him room to negotiate. Just stick to your principles. Watch your back and keep doing a good job at work, don’t let it affect your job.

Answer 2

Yeah that is a bunch of drama O_O sounds like a d**n soap opera if you ask me. Now you need to tell your so called friend that he needs to stop being a player and he needs to get his act straight on the real or you are going to not be his buddy anymore and if he does not care then he is a dumb *** and he is not worth your friendship space.

Answer 3

Your friend is being destructive on your hapiness and that is just not acceptable.  Tell him, like you plan to, then if he doesn't listen, maybe you can just break off your friendship.  It's not worth it.  If you've tried and there's nothing you can do then there's nothing left to do.  You might want to talk to the co-workers and explain to them it was not your fault, and to consider couple therapy with their partners.  Or just counselling.  Since you got him the job, you could persuade someone to demote him, or fire him, although this will break your friendship for sure and is quite horrible.  Or maybe you could find a different job away from this.  I know it takes a long time to find a good job op.  But this is just not worth it.