Best friend lost virginity, I feel sad?

Question

My best friend is 15 and i'm 13, so she's two grades ahead of me. Yesterday she confessed that she lost her virginity two weeks ago. She's been dating the guy for 7 months (and you know how it seems a lot longer when you're dating) and she said it was just a "spur of the moment" thing. I feel disappointed in her bc she still had control over the situation (he's not the pressuring type AT ALL) and we're not the type that takes s*x lightly. This is a huge deal to both of us, she seemed so set on waiting. I know she shouldn't have to ask my permission or anything since it's her business, but i feel like it wasn't fair to just go and have s*x, freaking s*x, without talking to me. And i'm still her best friend, no matter what happens.

We're really close. I feel sad, like she put him before me. What should i do?

Answer 1

Okay, first of all, you're 13 and she's 15. Neither of you should even be interested in s*x yet. But I have to say that hr relationship with her boyfriend is none of your business, not trying to be rude, but there it is. She has no obligation to discuss her relationship with you, and she told you eventually, which most people wouldn't do. It's just none of your business.

Answer 2

I think maybe you and  your friend are a little TOO close!! what she does with her life and body is up to her and she really shouldn't feel like she has to discuss it with you.

Answer 3

I don't think what she did was wrong.It was a personal decision and maybe it was not planned.I am sensing a bit of jealousy,you think that just because they are sexually intimate they will get more closer and you will be left out?

Don't feel that way.The fact that she told you abt it is something.I think you should support her or else you may loose her.It was her decision and by judging her you are not being a good friend

Answer 4

It's her life, not yours. Believe it or not, she's not going to consult you on every little detail of her life all the time.

Sometimes in a "romantic" situation, you lose yourself, and lose control of yourself, and let things flow naturally. Sometimes you make the right choices, and other times not, but sometimes you can't help it.

Don't worry, in another week or two, there will be something else you'll probably be freaking out over.........

teenage girls.......sigh.

Answer 5

you are her best friend and she may talk to you about her personal life but she does it because she wants to not because she has to do it just because you are her best friend.She has a private life and you can't make her talk about it :)

Answer 6

well, ur best friend shudnt have done it at 15 in the first place and no, she has not put the boy forward or gave him more attention then u. he is her boyfriend (one kind of loving relationship). ur her best GIRL friend (another kind of loving relationship). so stop being so sad about it. and tell her that at 15, its a bit too early!!

yes, sometimes the diffrence between boys and girls do  come out  

Answer 7

Dear bestfriend,

Her s*x life is NONE of your buisness. If you are a true friend you will not judge and you will keep your jealously under wraps. Shes in no way oblidged to dicuss any of her personal life with you. No mater how close you are

Answer 8

Girl i tottally understand you the same exact situation happened and i was really mad at her not so much sad... and i think you should tell her how hurt you are.. and to me if you are besties and you have always talked about everything that shouldnt stop when it comes to her having s*x. and dnt think of it as her putting you second.. just try to put yourself in her position at that time it could have been peer pressure whether he is the intimidating kind or not.. plus she is 15 so hormones may have been raging all at once whether she wanted to or not her body obviously wanted it ( if you get what i mean) so be kinda light on her and dnt stress yourself out over her problem okay! :)

Answer 9

something which is done cannot be undone

Answer 10

You can do nothing.

Whatever happened happened with the consent of your friend.

It is not your job to cry for her.

When she is not worried about it, why you are doing it.

These things will happen whether you believe it or not.

This is life this is living.

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