Best friend no longer wants to talk to me...?

Question

My best friend of 10 years stopped speaking to me. The closest friend I ever had.

A few years ago - when we were still close, she had a crush on my man and even once asked him to "practice kissing" on her. (I didn't find out about this until recently). In all honesty, I don't care, what's past is past. My man refused and left it at that.

After I got engaged about three years ago, she stopped talking to me. She was supposed to be my maid of honor but she didn't even come to my wedding. It was very hurtful.

She met someone new and I ended up going to her wedding. We talked and planned to get together.

That was over a year ago - and the last time we spoke. I've tried e-mail, phone and MySpace. I even tried sending messages through her sister. Nothing.

The only thing I can figure is that she is embarrassed about what she did and doesn't want to face me - I just want my friend back.

I miss her terribly ;(

Answer 1

It's hard to lose a friend but if she doesn't make the effort to contact you even after it's been so long then you need to find a new friend and besides if she tried that with your husband now why would you trust her around him at all.  Believe it or not if she was in your life again she just might try to take him away from you even though she's now married to someone else.  But she is probably jealous of you and your life but doesn't want to show it so she stays away.  Write her a long personal letter telling her your feelings and that if she wants to be a friend then she will write back if you do not get a response then it's obvious she doesn't want to be your friend.

Answer 2

well i hate to be the one to type this!!

But your still trying to be friends with someone after 3 years!

Reguardless on why you think she don't want to hang out anymore! her choice is not to hang out!  and you keep ignoring that!

Move on.. it's hard more so when you lose a great friend but great friends call you back!  at least once in a while!

Answer 3

Sometimes there is nothing you can do.  All you can do is try your best to be friendly.  If she comes around you'll be grateful.  If not, you haven't lost that much.

Answer 4

Email this to her.  I understand how you feel.  Be honest and tell her just this right here.

Answer 5

you should just move on from this friendship. even close friends grow apart  and if you remain friends the closeness like in the past will never be there

Answer 6

I went through a similar experience. I had a friend for 7 years and she just up and left me. I know it hurts and sometimes I'm still torn up about it even after 3 years but sometimes we have to move on. Maybe you could try showing up at her house to talk to her or something but if it doesn't work, you need to let go.

Answer 7

sometimes things just dont work out....she's embarrassed....and just cant get over that fact i know that u miss her but eventually she should get over what she did and realize it is not worth you friendship