Best friend problems?

Question

basically i feel like i cant count on one of my best friends. see i have 3 and 2 of them i can ask them for anything and i know they will atleast try to be there/let me borrow something/etc. but my other best friend sometimes i feel like if i ask to borrow something from her she'd say no. and we have a good relationship and i have done a lot for her but she hasnt done much for me bcuz i never asked. i know its stupid for me to feel like this especially when she doesnt but its been driving em crazy. should i tell her how i feel?? cause i dont wanna ruin our friendship not saying that telling her would but i really am confused

Answer 1

Why would she get mad if you confronted her?

I mean, don't go attacking her and start off by accusing her of things. Just tell her what's up and how you feel. Ask her if she means well and if she's honestly there for you. If you really wanna know the truth, then tell her to be sincere about her answer and that you wouldn't be mad or anything if she didn't care. Let her know that it means a lot.

Just make her feel that she can trust you, not hate you.

If she cares, then great. Problem solved. She's probably telling you the truth unless she has a reputation for being a s***k.

If she tells you she doesn't (fat chance), then just keep your cool. Yeah, it might be a little awkward, but at least now you know who you can trust. And don't let her ruin your relationship with your other 2 BFFs. Still hang with them in other words.

Good luck.

Answer 2

well with friends like those, dont even try to bring it up into discussion. some people are givers and some are takers and the takers arent going to understand your side of the story. if you care about her show her tht if she isnt always going to be there for you, then you wont always be there for her either. next time she wants to borrow from you, say no. dont be a push over to her and she wont act like u are one. best of luck :)

Answer 3

Not everyone you take as a friend also see you as their friend.She may be very dear to you but you may not be very dear to her.Don't let her attitude get to you.Help her out whenever you can but don't expect her to do exactly the same for you.It's obvious she doesn't like you that much.

Answer 4

prob there not being a good friend or what try to find a new group to hang out with!