Best way to file for FULL custody?

Question

Hi there...I asked this question in marriage and divorce, but after thinking about it I thought I might get more of a response from this section...Hope you can help!

My ex and I have been divorced now for several months, however we agreed that we would not file for custody because his schedule with work and the military is too complicated for him to have our child on a set every other weekend basis. Meaning he doesn't want to take her for a full weekend. I never went and filed because I didn't want him to actually go through with it. He physically and emotionally can't take care of her for more than 3 hours at one time. For him to see our daughter now he comes to my place and visits her here for a max of 4-6 hours per week while I work. He comes here and pretty much puts her to bed and night. That's it. I have never told him that he couldn't see her and I have always been more than accomodating to "his schedule." There have also been times when I have said that I have plans and I won't be around this weekend.

For the most part things have been working well, but recently he had been accusing me of not letting he see her when he is actually the one that doesn't show. The problem with him and the main reason I divorced him is that he is a pathological liar and he lies so much that he believes everything he says is true. There is NO winning or proving a point with him even when I know d**n well I'm right.

My question is...how hard is it to get full custody of my daughter? She lives with me now full time and is never with him. Is there any means that I can file against him so that he can't take her?

Sorry it's so long, I'm just so lost as to what do to with him. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I would say go ahead. You being a good mother and trying doing want right for your child. I would keep writing down when he doesn't up like he should he would. I would set up visitation up.

Answer 2

.........you could hire a hitman   LOL

Seriously though, just do it. File before he does and shove it in his face.  There's no judge in their right mind that is going to award custody to him.  You can be there for her 24/7 to provide for her. What's he going to do when he gets called out to duty or drill or whatnot?  YOURE THERE FOR HER NOW....Youre the one that knows what she needs and when she needs it!! Youve been her (mostly) sole provider for her entire life. No judge would deprive her from a perfectly healthy, sane mother that DOES NOT have a drinking or drug problem, has a good job, provides everything she needs, when she needs it....doesn't go out and party (except on her front stoop!)

Im here for you girl....JUST DO IT!!!!!!

Answer 3

you just go and follow through , you have been the main provider and unless you are doing smack with the baby in one arm and a tequila bottle in the other, than you shouldnt have any problems