Best way to get her to open up to me?

Question

I'm 16, 17 at the end of the month

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and have known his family for just as long. He has a cousin who I get along good with. She just turned 11.

The thing is, she's the oldest in her family, and I want to be kind of a big sister for her since she'll be going through a funky time in her life. I got her to talk to me about the guy in her class that she likes a little bit, but I had to ask questions to even get that. She got training bras for her birthday, so she's already getting into that phse.

I'm just so excited and want to be there for her as much as I can. but it would be weird if I went over there just to hang out without my boyfriend.

And there's 3 younger siblings so when I go over they are all climbing all over us as well.

Any ideas on how I can get her to open up more to me?

Answer 1

Maybe you could take her out to lunch, or take her shopping for a few nice things. When I'm hanging out with my neice, (she's 9), I tell her things that are going on in my life as well instead of just making her open up. I'll tell her something embarrassing that happened to me at school that day, or something funny that I saw while I was driving around. When she hears those kind of funny things i think it makes her more comfortable.  

Answer 2

talk to her as much as possible but not about just personal things. talk about general things and that will lead to more later. just let her know you're there for her

Answer 3

set a day out for you two maybe you could take a city bus or something have fun!

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Answer 4

Your situation is a tough one but I'm going to try and help. The first thing you are going to want to do is tell your boyfriend about this,just so you guys are on the same page. I think the best way to try and get her to open up is to do it outside of her home without her younger siblings. Maybe you should ask your boyfriend if you three could go out to lunch to the girls favorite place to eat. In my opinion if your going to get her to open up your going to have to share whats going on in your life. Another tip is you must ease into the subject not jump on it right when you see her.

I hope I helped & God Bless,

Shattered Windows

Answer 5

Don't push the "boys" thing. She's too young for a boyfriend. Just ask her what she likes to do for fun. Girls that age like to put on makeup. It's okay at that age as long as she does not wear it out of the house. Talk about school and her friends and tell her you remember what it was like to be her age and if she has any questions, she can ask you.