Bestfriend Problems????

Question

ok don't get me wrong i mean i luv my bestie (like a sis) but lately she is starting to scare me.... ummm she just turned 13 a couple months ago but ok.... she has 1 of her ears pierced like 3 times and her mom is letting her get her bellybutton pierced! at 13! oh and she is constantly flirting with older boy like 16-19.... also she wears thongs and REALLY revealing clothes..... how can i tell her what she is becoming without hurting her feelings??? i need help :(

Answer 1

I think that you are too stuck on what is going on in your friends life. It is her life and I hate to say it but if you can not except who she is becoming then instead of criticizing her let the friendship go. She needs to find her own personality and her own style. Yes at that age I agree she shouldn't be allowed to show herself  off and act that way but if you are really her friend simply say "you know, I feel uncomfortable being around you because of the way you are portraying yourself." You could also say "you have changed so much I don't know who you are any more and sorry but I don't like it!"

Answer 2

If she value your opinion you should tell her that she don't have to do all of that to get attention from men. She can still dress appropriate and still get the same attention.  Also tell her she piercing her body now because it's the so called in thing to do but 20years from now she's going to regret it.

Answer 3

ok so your going into/in grade 8, im  guessing. This sammme exact thing happened to me at that age! Heres whats going on, shes hit puberty and she reeeally wants guys to notice her. Thats why shes trying to be "s**y". Honestly though, i know how hard it is to become comfortable about, but thongs are not a bad thing. there just a type of underware that showes no panty line. It doesnt mean you have to wear them but if she wants to and finds them comfortable thats ok. You would be suprised to know how many girls start wearing them young, i know i was suprised to find out alot of my friends wore them at young ages. I just hope they arent wearing them to seem s**y.

as for the revealing clothes its the same deal, she hit puperty and wants guys attention. i dont agree with that one at all.

What i say is casually bring up a convo talking about how guys only go to girls who show of their thongs and reveal them selves because they want to use them and then leave them. Girls like that cant get serious relationships because no guy would bring them home to thier mom. The girl may think they have a relationship going but, its not real, he wants her for s*x. and since she reveals so much she seems easy and willing to give that. So many teens get pregnant and regret it, they drop out of school and then there life cant move much further since they dont have schooling! maybe that will open her eyes.

about the belly button peircing i say its her moms choice and you cant do much about it. :S

although as she gets older she will realize that she doesnt and shouldnt have to do all that. If she doesnt change then i know it may be hard but you may have to leave her. dont be her enemy or anything, but you may just grow appart and not like/do the smae thigns. you can still hang out every now and then though. Dont change to be like her or make her happy or make her like you still.

youll get through i did!