Bf being flirty or just playful?

Question

My bf and I have been dating for about 1 year. He is loyal and I trust him. I also trust my sister. This weekend however, I went on a weekend trip with him and my sister. We all got along well and on the last day of the trip, he and my sister got very playful and were tickling each other for about 2 hrs while we were on a ferry. Now, i was fine for a while but then it started bothering me. It bothers me because i think that was crossing the line. I don't think either my bf or my sister will ever cheat on me but I thought the behavior was inappropriate. I am not the jealous type and it bothers me alot that i am bothered by the whole thing. What do you think? Am i justified in thinking that playful tickling is crossing the line or am i just over-reacting? Btw my sister is my little sister, age 20. My bf is age 34 and i am 28.

Answer 1

Flirty and probably wanting more.

Answer 2

just forget it is just affection and harmless

Answer 3

Ah christ, we boys had better be extra careful, lest we "cross the line" of our jealous girlfriends.

Look, you told us you trust him, but obviously you dont if you dont trust him enough to be around your sister without worrying if he's messing around with your sister.

TBH if this is stirring up so much c**p inside you, you need to voice your concerns, we guys aren't psychic, we dont know when something's pissing you off if you dont tell us.

Answer 4

yeah id be wondering why your man was tickling and playing with someone else, when he could have been focusing on you instead...dont ever think the ppl closest too you wont be the ones to f*** u over.

Answer 5

You're over reacting.  He probably also considers her a little sister.  Nothing to worry about unless he does that with random women.  A 20 yr old young woman would never be attracted enough to her sister's 34 yr old boyfriend to flirt with him right in front of her.

Answer 6

1st, RELAX....... These people are all feeding your on your lure to blame him for harmless tickling.... Gawd, she's only your li'l sis !.... As you admitted, you're not a jealous type so don't let this spark the useless emotion of jealousy within you  Let them have fun.. Or tell him you like to be tickled too.... Above all, lighten up & don't be so dang sensitive..

Answer 7

Of course you're not over reacting. Your red flag went up. He was feeling up your 20 yr old sister for 2 hours under the guise of tickling. Seriously, who tickles someone for 2 hours? The guy is a letch and your sister is either naive or has a crush on him.

Answer 8

"I don't think either my bf or my sister will ever cheat on me but I thought the behavior was inappropriate. I am not the jealous type and it bothers me alot that i am bothered by the whole thing."

Wow... you really don't know anything about yourself huh. Nor do you have the fogus conception of logic.

--Bs, her sister would never do anything-- because women have morals and stuff according to you guys. And her boyfriend would never do anything-- because this woman here is in complete control of her emotions, and every man would respect and love how she never gets jealous or vacillates on her trust over frivolous issues!

Answer 9

Tickling is the cute cousin of flirting.

Answer 10

if your sister is competitive she will do it and your boyfriend will be drawn to the idea of knowing you both and her young body.

forbidden fruit, you know. maybe at 34 he will know better but this situation was too exciting for me to pass up when the opportunity presented itself.

i remember one morning my gf was on her way out to work and she jokingly said, "and don't f my sister!". that's exactly that i did.

the sister and myself were in our late teens and my gf was around your age. i think the younger one liked having one up on the older one.

Answer 11

Yes, I wouldn't go for that at all. It crossed the line and you know it did as you felt it yourself.

When is the last time you tickled one of your boyfriends brothers for 2 hours? How about never.

Creepy really, and he's far to old to be doing that.

This is at least warning # 1 and I would say something to him about it. Me myself would have said something right then and there as it was happening.

Be Well,

Answer 12

Why dont you discuss this with your sister instead of total strangers like us on this forum?

Answer 13

that is absolutely wrong don't dout yourself!! I'm sure everything will turn out ok sometimes guys just cant resist younger gurls which ok sometimes its good to take breaks in relationships! try to keep these two away from each other! tell your sis that she was wrong to go along with it she knew he was taken!! tell him that this was making u uncomfortable and was very wrong of him to do to you what dose take you for chopped liver??? i mean common tell him to get real how young does he think he is???....14???? trust me this was not an attempt to be playful trust me on this i have alot of experience! good luck hope it all works out for you!!!

luv,

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