Big Fat Greek Wedding all over again...

Question

I'm turning 18 years old and I've been dating this boy for about 2 years now. He is perfect for me I know it but he's not Greek. I'm not aloud to date although I'm aloud to talk to boys. My parents think a Greek guy is best for me, just with the religion and everything, they think its easier.

I agree but I don't think I can let go of the guy I'm currently dating. Sometimes I wish I wasn't Greek or he was. My mom knows that I talk to him and she's in denial that I'm actually dating him. She doesn't like it at all and won't even give him a chance. I get a long really well with his family though.

My family talks a lot and if they ever found out, they'd think bad about me. I can't even imagine as to what my dad would do. He's beyond strict and doesn't like me talking to guys at all.

I just am so confused as to what I should do. Everything comes together with this guy except for the whole Greek thing.

What should I do?

Answer 1

all Im going to say is your an adult do what you want...

Answer 2

Yep, I know the feeling but what you have to ask yourself is: Is he worth all the trouble? Would he walk through h**l and back for you? Your parents will come around eventually, even your dad, but it will be a hard road.

Answer 3

You would never forgive yourself if you let your family, and their prejudices,  make you give up the one you love. If you love him, the answer is clear, stay with him. If not, then let your family decide your life for you, which will only lead to regret.

Answer 4

You need to decide if you want the boy you're with, or you want someone who is Greek. It sounds simple, but it's not. You probably need to date him for a few more years, feel the wrath of your family, go to couples counseling, and decide along the way.

Answer 5

I think it's silly when families cannot accept someone because their religious or ethnic backgrounds don't mesh.

You're only 18, so I don't think you need to be worrying about this right now to begin with, but if for some reason, marriage comes up, I think you should just stick up for yourself and explain that you don't like in the dark ages. People marry for love, and while there are other factors, ethnicity shouldn't be one of them.

But I really don't think you have any reason to worry because you're still so young, and you don't know where you'll be in a few years. I thought my first love was "the one" for a while. Then I woke up one day and just realized we were heading in different directions and we didn't mesh anymore, and we broke up, and I'm marrying a man that I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with.

When you're 21, and you still feel this way, then you can ask yourself these questions.