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Ok I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and I told ONE friend at university where I am studying, I didn't think I had to ask her not to tell anyone. I have just found out off another friend that she has told at least 20 people at my college!

Should I confrunt her? I'm I over reacting? How would you feel if everyone knew?

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well you just told people

maybe she was getting help

on what to do just like you are now.
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Personal information that is handed out like candy with no restriction to someone who obviously can't keep her mouth shut concerning your tragedy, is

A, NOT YOUR FRIEND

B.  NOT WORTH KEEPING AS A FRIEND

C.  NOT WORTH GOING TO JAIL OVER

I wouldn't give her any more personal information concerning myself if I were you.  The info is out there, keep your head up and your mouth shut and move on.  If anyone questions you about it, its up to you whether you acknowledge it as truth, or dismiss them and the question.   If everyone knew something so personal about me, I would probably be mortified, PO'ed and would be not likely to engage anyone who asked me questions about it in a civilized manner.  I would not be very grateful and would likely treat anyone impolite enough to inquire about it, like a rabid dog!  Good luck!  So sorry for your loss!
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confront her! tell her you don't want to be friends anymore and that she's a big mouth and if she tells anyone else, you'll kill her. don't let that sort of thing happen! that's very unfair to you!
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no problem
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that's incredibly insane. how could she do that to you? you should definitely confront her, and you SHALL NOT apologize to her, EVER. she did something wrong, and you didn't. when something bad happens, at least everyone needs a helping hand, so they tell people to relieve stress. she should have known that. you're definitely not overreacting, and i would go INSANE!!!! if my friend did that to me. especially a miscarriage, my god i am SO sorry of you. best of luck, i really do hope everything will be alright.
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slap that ho that is the most obvious thing not to tell ppl
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Send the email if it makes you feel better. Then, NEVER tell this person anything in confidence again. She's shown you her true colors. Sorry about what you are going through.
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confront her and tell her to shut her dam mouth! thats wat i would do or make her life a living h**l
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confront her and tell her you are hurt and never confide in her again.
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i would confront her. what the h**l, thats so messed up, if you thought you could trust her. thats half the reason i have trust issues now.
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I would confront her. You are definately not overreacting.

Try to keep calm, and try to be nice about it.

Make sure it won't happen again, or better yet, just don't tell her secrets anymore. Some poeple just can't be quiet.
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You are not over-reacting in any way. You shouldn't have had to tell her to not say anything. Confront her and ask why should tell people something about you that is so personal. That is something that she should have already known not to tell anyone so don't take that, "Well you didn't say for me not tell anyone!", B.S. she is probably going to say.
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I would confront her, that is a personal thing. She knew that. I would ask her why she thought she had the right to tell other people.
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You're way too soft; if anyone had done that to me, it wold be over and that is what I would write. The "friendship" such as it was, would be over.
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I would most definitely confront her, you don't need to be nasty about it. but just so she knows what she did wrong.

Pull her aside and tell her that you wanted to the miscarriage to be kept secret because it was a very painful time for you and you needed to confide in her. Advise her that you will have to think about the next time you need to confide in someone, that she might not be on top of your list.

You are not overacting. A miscarriage is a big thing. Its a very painful thing to go through and I know what its like when you need a friend to talk to.

Also what happens if something else big happens and you tell her thinking that if you tell her to keep it secret she won't and then its out all over the place!

you need to tell her what a secret is.
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Of course you should confront her, tell her how much it upset you.. how you thought you could trust and count on her support. What you went through must have been horrible and I'm so sorry for your loss! what your friend (or so called friend) did was definitely not nice! SHe should have been there to support you.. not blab about you all around your school!
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GURL. THATS A CHILD U LOST! ! h**l YEA, U HAVE THE RIGHTS TO SAY WHATS ON YOUR MIND. GO HEAD GURL, TELL HER OF. PUT THE O IN OF NEXT TIME U SEE HER..

THIS AINT NO SILLY SECRET WHERE SHE COULD JUST GO TELL...
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stay away from her.............
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if it was me i would confront her.

but if your the type of person that just like to walk away n stuff then dont but, in my opinion i would say something. =)
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