Big problem in dealing with death

Question

I have a big fear of dying and other people dying. I am only years old! i am not supposed to be scared yet! But every day I think of when i'm in a coffin ten years after i am dead. That scares me so bad. I can't stop thinking about it! When i talk to my mom about it she just laughs. of what should i do?

Answer 1

Hi, you did not put your age, but I am going to guess Young.

  I am 43 and come from a very large extended family, and that is great, accept that the bigger the family, the more death you see.

  I can tell you that I always remember the person who has passed with a smile on there face, and I remember the good times we had together.

  It is a fact of life that we are born and then we die, and there is nothing we can do about that.

  I always tell me friends that I love them,in fact, the last thing I said to my cousin before he died is that I loved him, so that helped me, just knowing that he knew how I felt about him.

  Also, remember that God has promised all of us eternal life with Him in heaven. And that means that we will all see our loved ones again.

  And just think, the people that you have lost in death are closer to you now then when they were alive, because now they are with you spiritually.

  Don't laugh, but I talk to and can hear my loved ones all the time.

And there are signs of them and God's love around us all the time, but we tend to miss a lot of them because of our busy lives.

  I for one look forward to death and not getting sick or feeling bad in any way.

  Try to enjoy life one day at a time and always telling your family and friends that you love them.

I hope this helps.

You may email me if you wish.

God bless!

Answer 2

well when ur dead, ur not going to feel or see anything...its just going to be as if u fell asleep, and never woke up, so u wont have a clue whats going on. r u religious? if u are ur religion might help u feel more comfortable about the subject =]

about the other ppl dying, its going to happen to everyone, and unfortunately ur going to go through seeing a lot of loved ones die. Again, if ur religious, it really helps. besides that, u have friends and family to be with u in hard times =]

Answer 3

heh, you know, I used to think this way about my best friend. She passed away almost seven years ago. For a long time, whenever I thought of her, instead of remembering her as she was, I would imagine what she looked like now in her coffin, and what a horrible waste it was that she was gone, and how was I going to live without her? I'm not afraid of dying myself, and for the most part, I now have a very healthy view on death and life, and whatever afterlife may exist.  I think for me, it was the manner of my friend's death that made it so tragic and so hard for me to deal with and imagine her as she was, happy. She committed suicide. To me it was such a waste.... but I truly believe that wherever she is now, she has made peace with her life here, and she's happy.  

Answer 4

i had this same exact problem ): i always used to think about dying and other people dying and i would always get scared . but you shood do things to keep your mind off of it and dont let yourr fears get to you . you have to keep positive and hope for the best  (:

Answer 5

All pass through a phase wherein they dwell upon death or an unknown part of life as yet unventured. It’s natural. Death comes to all in the end, from God we come to him we will return. Gain a little control of your mind and be positive in your thoughts and outlook. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Its natural to be concerned about death and dying.  Its not natural to be obsessed about it.  Maybe you should talk to a counsellor.

Answer 7

How old are you?

You have to realize that if you're scared of dying your whole life, you'll live a horrible miserable life.

Wouldn;t you rather life a short meaningful life, then a long unmeaningful one?

Just tell yourself

"you have one life to live. so live it well!!!"

enjoy life while you can.

and remember you cant control other peoples death so just do what you know you can do to help the people you love.:)