Biological Parents are people too?

Question

I am soo tired of hearing people saying that the biological parents are giving up their children because they don't want them. Although it is possible that some of them truly don't want the children, it is more common that the birth parents despirately WANT the children, but they don't feel that they can provide a safe environment or that they can provide properly for the child.

I want to thank everyone that has acknowledged this fact, and hope that the others will realize that the birth parents are people too.

Answer 1

I think it's a very good point LC, thank you for reminding everyone that. I think there is this really bizarre dynamic of biological parents either being held up on pedestals and praised as being better than single moms who keep... (which is putting down women who don't place isn't it?)

VS assuming all biological parents are drug addicts and abondoners and don't care and are unworthy of their children.

(Notice whether they get praised or put down, NO ONE thinks they were worthy of their own children to being with?)

We're only human. Some bioparents suck. I mean really suck. Should never have been allowed near a child, are just dreadful people and really don't care.

Some biological parents are amazing human beings that would do anything for their children and really would have been pretty good moms if they hadn't fallen into the adoption slogans about it being the "best thing", the "most loving thing" the most wonderful sacrafice etc etc.

And then... there is everything in between!!

Answer 2

Of course, Some people also don't realize that some people may give a child away because they were raped and was not ready for a child and don't believe in abortions.

Answer 3

I admire my daughter's birth mom more than anyone.

Answer 4

I just got off the phone with my natural mother whom I happen to love very much. She recently told me that if she knew then what she knows now she would have never ever relinquished me.

I agree with you that it's common that natural parents desperately WANT their children - what I find sad is that people around them don't help them to see the strengths they do have to be good parents and instead keep pounding into them the idea that they can't AFFORD a child.

I would have wore 2nd hand clothes and ate mac -n- cheese every day in exchange for being raised by my natural mother.

Answer 5

I agree 100%. My boyfriend loves both of his parents (adoptive & bioligical) very much.

Answer 6

I agree that biological people are people too. Whatever is the reason they had the baby, they made a wise choice to give up the baby in adoption.

I see in news everyday how a boyfriend is daily giving blackouts to his PG GF(by making her hold her birth) to kill the baby or How mom kills her baby etc.

But some times when people know that they can not have enough to rise a baby. this is where they decide to give up the baby for adoption. it is a wise, sensible and the right decision. this way the child can have everything the Bio. parent cant afford both phyically & financially.

Answer 7

My mother didnt give me away I was taken from her through lies. Each situation varies and no one should judge until they know the whole story.

Answer 8

I agree that biological parents are people too. I have not been adopted, adopted a child or been a birth parent , but I believe that birth parents are people. My aunt is the only birth mother  I know and when she gave up her son for adoption she cried for a really long time and some times she still does cry. That's why I hate when some adoptive kids say "my real mom didn't love me" or  "my real parents didn't love me" and I just want to say. How do you know? They probaby gave you up to have a better life and have the things they probaby wouldn't be able to give you.

Answer 9

There's a really great book that I recommend (and give) to everyone I know who has any connection with adoption. It's called "Did My First Mother Love Me?" It's a picture book written to the child (appropriate for just about any age) from their birth mother. It's from her perspective on being pregnant and loving her child and knowing that giving them up for adoption would be the best thing for them. I've never seen another book written from this perspective and it's a wonderful way for everyone involved to see what the birthmother is going through. It isn't sappy or melodramatic or the least bit preachy in any way. It's just a really good book.

Answer 10

I can't believe that anyone would shun people who give their baby up for adoption....they chose to let that baby live, and they chose to allow another family to make this baby their own-to me that shows heart. Going through a pregnancy is not always an easy and comfortable process for some people...and people who chose not to want to keep their baby for whatever reason, could have very easily chosen to abort the fetus, but they didn't...they chose to let that baby live. Some biological parents just may not be in the right situation to be the best parents to their child, and there is nothing wrong with that...instead of bashing people who make the decision to give their baby up for adotion, let's bash those people who give birth to babies and then proceed to throw them in dumbsters, and toilets...those are the people who don't deserve to be called humans..those are monsters!

Answer 11

Of course bio parents are people, too.  They created another human being--wouldn't they have to be people?

Usually, natural parents who give children up to adoption are in a temporary (but maybe not seemingly so) situation, that's due to lack of money or opportunity.

Answer 12

i agree with u 100% many many should be grateful for bio parents or many many will have never became a mom or dad so GOD BLESS AND TY