Birth-control?

Question

How do I get my mom to get me on birth control? My mom and I are not open with each other about this kind of thing. And about a year ago when I was at the gyno, I was still a virgin so my dr. and I did not really discuss bc, but since then I have had s*x, and want to be put on bc. But I don't know how to ask her.

Answer 1

My mother and I are not open about this sort of thing either, so when I wanted to be put on it I was really scared.

I finally just walked right up to her and told her that after 7 years I was sick of having irregular periods and horrible cramps, and wanted to be put on birth control to help it.  The gyno can't tell her if you are/are not a virgin as far as I know as long as you are 16.

Answer 2

I had the same problem  at 17, but finally built up enough courage to ask.  Even though she was a little shocked she understood and allowed the birth control.

Answer 3

personally i would just sit her down and explain to her why you want to be put on bc. she may not like the idea at first but then she will probally be proud that you want to take the ignititive to make sure your safe when you are sexual active. My mom and I were like your mom and I and now she's happy i got on bc.

Answer 4

tell her its for your heavy periods

Answer 5

simple. don't do it anymore until you're married

Answer 6

In my opinion there is no way to ask your mom that... especially if your relationship is like that. You can either simply wait until your 18 and get it yourself, ask another trusted adult who you can talk to about this stuff if they can get you some birth control (if there is no person like that then forget it), you could tell your mom you want to regulate your period or reduce the heaviness of it and ask if she could go to the doctor with you to get birth control, or you could just tell her your having s*x and you need the birth control.

I agree with the person above, don't have unprotected s*x.. but it sounds like your being smart about it. If you can't find an alternative of asking your mom straightforward just remember that she'd rather you two have an awkward talk about you being sexually active than have the awkward bomb being dropped that your pregnant...

(oh yeah-you probably know ... bc has no protection whatsoever against STDs).  

anywho, hoped that helped. :]

Answer 7

why do YOU have to be on birth control.... HE can be too... the condom is readily available... don't wait till it's too late.....

Answer 8

When I didn't have a doctor, I went to this...I'm not sure what it was called.  It was a place for only women - alot of younger girls.  Something like a crisis pregnancy centre or planned parenthood.  They had a doctor you could talk to, and they gave me birthcontrol cheap - at cost.  In the form you filled out, you filled out if it was okay for them to call you at home or not and whether to leave a message or not - so it was all anonymous.  They were great - I believe it was called the women's centre or something like that.  If you could find a place like that, or a crisis pregnancy centre/planned parenthood, they could help you out or point you in the right direction to go on birth control.

Answer 9

try just starting a casual conversation and then bring it up.

Answer 10

If you are not able to be an adult and make a decision to talk to your mother about being put on contraceptives maybe you should not be having s*x. Your primary concern should not be about not getting pregnant, a condom can break and you could contract a STD. I have a feeling that your Mom would not want  you to be on birthcontrol. There are so many side effects from taking birth control. I am for abstinence concerning unmarried women. But if you are going to have s*x anyway you have to talk to her, just do it. If you keep putting it off this situation is not going to go away, you have to deal with this situation or the situation will deal with you. Having s*x is a big responsibility and when you are unmarried, unsure about your partner, and you lack the openess to communicate with your mother, you are just opening your life up to other issues you will have to deal with. It is best to save your self for someone who loves you enough to be commited to you and wants to marry you than to be used for sexual pleasure until he tires of you and goes to the next woman who does not have the sense to keep her panties on.

Answer 11

so u dont actually have to talk to her about it either u cood a) email her or b) ask ur doctor to ask her

Answer 12

You should try and have a heart to heart conversation with her letting her know how you feel.  I find it real mature of you thinking ahead and not wanting to get pregnant. I do not condone teenagers having s*x, but that can't be stopped.  Hopefully she will understand and come to the realization that she does not want to be a grandmother yet.

Answer 13

first of all how old are you? if <17 just use ur hand! if older then do it yourself

Answer 14

Some states have a lower age to get that. You need to find a doctor who will prescribe it. Don't have unprotected s*x though. That can lead to some loathesome diseases. And you're too young to get that kind of a disease or have to explain it later on.

Answer 15

There is always the option to simply go to planned parenthood, they allow anyone to obtain bc without parental permission, as well as will make an effort to be careful so your parents remain in the dark.

However, I'd just be mature about it sit down, tell your mother you've become sexual active and wish to be responsible by using oral contraceptives as well as condoms.

You should also be aware of the risks of b.c. (see article in source) and remember that bc is not 100% effective, nor does it prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

Answer 16

Discuss this with your doctor, I don't know how old you are but you need to make your mom ready to hear about this. I think your mom really cares for you and is worried that you might get hurt or something. If you talk to her about your relationship and make her ready to hear about the consequences of you getting pregnant she, would probably stand on your side and would help you. Otherwise you should try to build a more friendly atmosphere in your relationship with your mother. If you think she might never change, remember that changes don't happen over night but always try. Peaceful talking is the solution of most our problems dear.