Birth/first/natural mothers?

Question

did you give your child up 100% willingly? were you offered help to keep your baby, or???

Answer 1

Yes 100% willingly

No offers of any kind.

Answer 2

Yes, I made the decision before telling anyone I was pregnant.  I would not have kept my baby.  I was a child and not ready for the responsibility - obviously since I couldn't even keep up with birth control.  My parents would have ended up raising him and I've always felt that is wrong.

Answer 3

I gave up my baby willingly. I was 18, already had a 20 month old and wanted to go on to school to give my kids a better life.

Answer 4

Yes, I gave her up, 100% willingly.  No, I was not offered help- if I had been, that would have insulted my intelligence.  I knew what I wanted, and my loved ones respected that decision.

Answer 5

I was 100% willing. I was almost 30, married (to the father), had a good job and an Ivy League education - not exactly a desperate situation. I sought out the attorneys, and my husband and I chose the aparents together. I've never wanted to be a mom, and my husband has never wanted to be a dad. Adoption was always our backup plan to birth control. I'm an extreme introvert, and I'm exhausted after a day at work having to deal with a bunch of adults who can ask for what they need in full sentences and (usually) decent manners. Being a good parent to someone who's preverbal, isn't capable of taking care of their own needs, and needs constant, consistent, loving attention? Not going to happen.  I can't imagine what kind of help anyone could have offered that would have made a difference in making my decision.

Answer 6

=oP  It's a tough question to answer.  How do I answer that while I 100% made the adoption plan and signed the relinquishment, at the same time 100% of me wanted my son with every fiber of my being.  Also, can a choice of mine be 100% without proper counseling or informed consent of what consequences come with making such a choice?

It's just a tough question to answer.

Answer 7

No I did not. I had papers shoved in my face while in my hospital bed on 2 powerful narcotics. When the drugs wore off I revoked my consent but the sw "forgot" to file the papers until after the deadline. I spent 6 months fighting to have my baby returned until I was told she had already bonded with the APs and I was out of luck.

I was not offered any help to keep my child at all. In fact everytime I came up with an idea I was told how it would not work and I would ruin her life. I was told I would ruin my families lives and everyone would hate me.

I'm sure I will get tons of thumbs down but that won't make it any less true

ETA: This was not years and years ago. It was 2005. It was a well know and respected national agency. My OB called them when I admited to being scared of my families reaction. So it still happens in this day and age.