Birth parents find you then turn away.?

Question

I believe that I was contacted by my birth parents through a temp job that I had eight years ago. Up until then, I did not know that I may have been adopted. When I was told about the job, my temp agency told me that they asked specifically for my resume. That tells me that someone there knew me, knew I needed a job, and knew how to get a hold of me. I believe that they had intended on telling me (from what I was overhearing), but between my obvious emotions and my family interfering, they did not tell me. I did ask family members and friends, and they all told me I was not adopted, but they would slip up and say that they didn't know Frank, when I didn't use his name. I did end up writing him a letter and stating that I believed I was adopted and he was my father. He called me and said he didn't know my mother. But then I stated that I thought his wife was my mother, and he started to stutter. I still believe I am right, adoption records are sealed. What should I do?

Answer 1

You say they tried to contact you if the adoption was closed how would they have known you were their birth child?  . I think you need to do dna test, take a hair from both of your parents and get a dna test run, then you can go from there. They wouldn’t be able to lie if you have solid proof in your hands that they aren’t your biological parents.

Answer 2

I hope you're not trolling -- people here put a lot of care and attention into their answers. And if this is an honest question, I hope you're not offended by people being a little suspicious.

If you don't have a copy of your birth certificate, try ordering one online at:

http://www.vitalrec.com/

DO NOT check the box about being adopted.

Once you get it, or if you already have it, what's the difference between your date of birth and the date filed? One or 2 days maximum is normal. If there's a gap, that could be a clue to start with. Your next step would be to check out the laws in the state you were born in:

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

Answer 3

My first thought is to find someone who could be an intermediary and actually go to their house and talk to them.

If you really wanted to get into the secretive, investigative stuff, get that intermediary to nab some DNA from something and then you can have it tested.  Link below is an accredited lab.  They will tell you what stuff is usable.

Answer 4

trust your gut.

then you have to decide what you want to do.  you can check adultadoptees.org and also http://www.latediscovery.org/

Answer 5

Order your legal birth certificate.

Look for the differences, late file date, no signatures, no attending physicians signature....

our amended birth certificates look different than non adopted legal birth certificates if you look REAL CLOSE you can see the differences.

Assuming you aren't a troll, aren't lying and your adoption was legal to begin with.

Answer 6

so he thinks you're his kid but he doesn't know who your mother is?

are you a troll?

Answer 7

There is an organization taht reunites Bio parents with their children. It was Oprah I think. I'm sorry I can't remember the name of it. I do wish you luck and hope that all turns out well for you.