Birthday Parties for Siblings 11 days Apart...?

Question

How would you do it before they are old enough to decide? One party for both or 2 different parties?

I have a 3 year old and a 4 month old. They are both February babies, 11 days apart. My husband is not seeing my point of view on this so I'm just looking for others opinions. Thanks!

Answer 1

while they are young they could share. As they get older and want to have sleepovers and other party plans with friends you could go their separate party ways. But at this young age, definitely together makes more sense.

Answer 2

two differents parties! This next year you have a party for the 4 year old ,but just a small family get together for the 1 yr old!

Answer 3

In our family, we always did separate birthdays for each child.  Nothing fancy, just their choice of what to have for dinner (when old enough), cake and presents.  I have 4 younger siblings - two in Sept., 9th and 15th, and two in Dec., 7th and 22nd.  The only time we did a 'shared' birthday was fairly recently, one of my brothers wasin college and couldn't make it home for his exact birthday, so we had two at the same time when he came for the other birthday.  If I had 2 kids in your situation, I'd do them separate, although maybe have smaller cakes instead of regular size ones.

Answer 4

My girls' birthdays are 3days apart and we have always had their parties together. My oldest (4) loves sharing a party w/ my youngest (2) and they enjoy picking out things for their party... You may be thinking that my 2yr old will go w/ whatever my 4yr old picks but this is not true- they are both VERY opinionated and they both know what they like but somehow they have been able to compromise on most things (esp their last party). Last year, she was too little to have input, but this year, she helped pick out supplies and prizes... I think that the key is to make each one of your children feel special. I think that asking family to come to two seperate parties could be viewed as inconsiderate, but every family is different. Since the girls share their party, they each get to pick a place to eat dinner on their actual bdays and get their gifts from us then, rather than at their party... it works well for us and the girls don't mind sharing their party- my oldest looks forward to it and my youngest knows no different way. Ultimately you have to do what will work best for you and your children. Good luck!

(My girls also share a room and all their toys so when they opened their presents, it was like look what WE got. I am pregnant now and the baby is due in Oct- my oldest wanted to know who the baby would share her bday party w/ and when I told her that she would have one by herself, she said that that wasn't fair b/c the baby would be sad since she wouldn't get as many presents! LOL)

Oh and I also make each child an small individual cake and make a big one for the guests, this also makes it a little more pesonal for each child, in my opinion.

Answer 5

At this age do them together but as soon as they get old let them do there own when they have many of their own friends not r=just realitives and family friends.

Answer 6

Your younger child deserves a 1st birthday all to him/herself.  I think if you want to do it together for a few years afterwards then that is fine

Answer 7

I have the same situation. My kids are 5 years and 9 days apart with birthdays in July. We had their birthday parties together until my oldest was finally wanting a party of her own, which was at about age 11. She wanted to have a "big girl party" with her friends and everything being about her. I respected that and have had separate parties every since. I would leave it up to the oldest. When they are ready for a separate party, they will let you know. Hope this helps you!

Answer 8

I would do them together, no doubt. It is just easier for everyone and I doubt at this age the kids will care.