Birthday Party Rudeness?

Question

My 7 year old daughter had her birthday party yesterday. My daughter gave out the invitations 2 weeks before the party so, plenty of time in advance.

I asked on the invitations to let me know by either phone or e-mail if the child was attending or not. I was booking a place to host the party and I needed a rough estimate on how many children they would be serving.

One of my daughter's friends said she was coming but, her parents never called to let me know despite me reminding her to remind her parents.

On the day, the little girl showed up with another girl who's parents did call and confirm. I was kind of baffled but, we were able to make arrangements to accommodate the extra party guest.

Later her father came to pick her up and he just walked in, grabbed the kid and left. He didn't even stop to say "Hi" or anything.

I was a bit offended to be honest. How can you just drop your kid off at some party without even telling the people hosting the party that they are coming?

Answer 1

Since her friend already told your daughter she was coming her parents didn't feel the need to call. Since you WERE aware that she had said she was coming you should have included her in the final count anyway. Yes, he could have at least said hi or thank you for letting his daughter attend. I took my 3 year-old son to a party for his friend today and I took his goody bag from him until he told the parents thank you (He was being kind of stubborn)

Answer 2

I can see why you found that to be rude.  I would have also.

I also don't take the verbal confirmation of a 6 year old as a for sure thing.  My daughter recently came home saying that her friend invited her to walk home with her after school to spend a couple hours playing.  I kept telling her that I won't let her go until I hear it specifically from her mom that she is invited.  

As for a birthday party RSVP, if a child told me they were coming but I didn't hear from the parent(s) I would not take it too seriously but accomodate for in case the child does show up.

Answer 3

yes its rude,but sounds like the parents or at least dad is maybe odd? not the little girls fault,shes probably embaressed,dont discuss in front of your child. in future,if you dont get a reply,check with the parents yourself.

Answer 4

it is so rude isn't it. I have to say I am never in the position. If i have heard nothing I usually just talk to the parent or email them to find out if they are coming. There is not much you can do, but always good to get it off your chest

Answer 5

This has happened to us on a few different occasions. People are so awful sometimes-- I had some friends that didn't RSVP for my baby shower and showed up, a whole FAMILY said they'd be at my wedding and didn't show (8 people-- an entire TABLE)  oh yeah, happens all the time, across the board.

Rude people SUCK!

Answer 6

We have had the opposite happening,Parents forget to reply or when they are  younger invitation  is  in the bag and the child forgets.Some times you habe to do the chaisng up yourself. Its more complicated  when the parents are split up too because you dont know which parent has the responsibility of saying yes   to to the invitation.Its hard on the kids.There could be a number of reasons.

Answer 7

Maybe they thought her verbal RSVP was their notification that she would be attending.

Answer 8

At that age, YOU were the one who should have been calling the parents if they didn't get ahold of you to accept or decline the invitation.

Answer 9

Maybe dad thought mom had done it or mom thought dad had done it or they believed that the little girl telling your daughter was enough.  

Or maybe they have a lot on their plate and forgot.

You just never know.  It doesn't seem like something you need to obsess about.

Answer 10

Just make sure you never end up like that parent.

Yes thats rude but there not much you can do about it.

Answer 11

YEA THERE IS NOT MUCH TO DAY ABOUT THAT ONE JUST LET THEM KNOW NEXT TIME INVITE FAMILY MEMBERS ONLY UNLESS YOU CAN WOR SOMETHIG ELSE OUT