Blending of the Sand??...HELP!

Question

We are having an outdoor wedding..(not by the beach..lol) and i dont want to use the unity candles, i like the idea of the blending of the sand better, but ive look all over the internet and couldnt find what the minister should say. i found one for if children were invloved..they arent. and one if you did it at the beach..we arent.

So i guess i was just wondering if anyone has done this before and how they put it in the ceremony and what the said to explain it to the guest, and what the minister read to the bride and groom.

any help would be great..thanks!

Answer 1

I attended my first wedding where the couple did the sand-blending this year. The wording as almost exactly the same as if the couple were lighting a unity candle. He described the two different containers of sand (in two different colors, of course) as representing the couple before marriage, and as the sand is blended into the one larger container, it represents the couple as no longer being seprate, but as one person as the sand can never be separated (just as the flame can never be separated with a unity candle).

A word of caution though (I'm not kncoking your decision, just a word of advice): I've spoken to a lot of couples who have done the sand ceremony and they've all said they regret it because after a while the sand begins to settle and blend together and the colors are no longer distinguishable. Just a little friendly FYI =D

Good luck!

Answer 2

We didn't have our wedding right on the beach, we had it in a small chapel next to the beach.  But we decided to do the sand ceremony instead of the unity candle because we both grew up at the beach and it suited us.

We put the explanation of the sand ceremony in our programs.  This is what we had:

"The sand ceremony is a modern day interpretation of the traditional unity candle.  It represents the joining of two people and two lives into one union.  The bride and groom have chosen to use sand from each of their respective Florida hometowns of Atlantic Beach and Fort Myers in their ceremony today."

And I kind of put together from different sources what the minister read.  It was somewhat similar to this:

"_______________ and ______________, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be."

If you google "sand ceremony wording", you'll find a lot of different reading out there.  Good luck!

Answer 3

http://www.islandpreacha.com/docs/buildy...

There you go! Congratulations :)