Body issue in American culture?

Question

First off I'm an uncircumcised guy and I've heard many girls negatively react or talk about an uncircumcised p***s in a negative sense (never directly at me as they didn't know I was uncircumcised). My question was if you came across an uncircumcised guy when you guys were in the moment would you turn him down or would you fool around with him and just never do it again. I like this girl and we were talking about circumcision one day as a group of which she said uncut men are gross. She then asked me if I was circumcised I told her I was and then she said that I'd better be.

I just turned 18 and I don't have to much experience but I'm pretty sure she wants to sleep with me and I want to sleep with her I just don't know if I should because I'm uncircumcised. While she is a really cool girl I can totally see her flipping out, getting up and walking out and then telling all her friends about my circumcision status. Should I advance the relationship or not? Please be brutally honest

Answer 1

should have told her the truth. You still have time too. But chances are she doesn't even know what an uncircumcised p***s looks like.  

Answer 2

I have met lots of women who feel uncircumsized penises are gross.  I have had one lover with his f******n intact and I was not grossed out.  It was very different though, but I got used to it.  We are used to circumsized penises and that's what we expect when a guy drops his pants.

I think that when you find a girl who really loves you for you, she won't care one bit about your p***s. (If a girl only sees it while it's erect she won't even be able to tell).

Answer 3

I am now married to an uncircumcised man. I have been married to a man who was ,and to me it didn't matter either way.Your friend has expressed her opinion and you were dishonest in telling her yes.When my son was born I didn't have the money to do it , so he is not and seems to do just fine.I guess times have changed. I would not ask such a question.If your hygiene is as it should be. It doesn't matter once your e-.I never asked nor did I run out of the room screaming.:-) I would say find out her issues and go from there.

Answer 4

my husband is uncircumcised i would never has turn him down for that , there is nothing wrong with it. you just have to keep it clean . if she let you know that she does not like them like that than look for someone else i don't think that is something that should be taken as a bad thing or something by what you have to make a decision on whether you have s*x or not i think that's ignorant. when your p***s is nice and hard believe me you cant tell if hes circumcised or not that's just bull ****.  

Answer 5

Yea... you should have told her the truth, but if you are both ready to make that jump then she shouldn't care.

I mean, you don't necessarily have to be in love to have s*x, but if this is your first time you want it to be with someone who doesn't care about what your p***s looks like. You want it to be enjoyable because you will remember it forever. Mine was terrible and I wish I could change it, but I can't.

So my advice is only get into that if you feel completely comfortable with this girl, if not, move on, if she can't accept you for what you are and your uncircumcised p***s, then kick her to the curb and find someone who can.

Answer 6

My husband is uncircumsized.

I think it's hot-- like a present to unwrap.

Find another girl who will like it-- she sounds like a superficial idiot. Or she was joking. If she's worth it, find out.

Answer 7

Truthfully most girls don't even know what an uncircumcised p***s looks like, I'm pretty sure I don't lol. I don't see how it would matter though, if she has a problem with it find a BETTER girl.

Answer 8

You should definitely have told her the truth because now if things ever start to get that far, as soon as she sees you are uncut, she will not only have the issues that she already has with uncircumcised men, but she will also think you are deceitful.  If you want to have any chance of having s*x with her, you need to be honest with her, well before it gets to that point, and tell her that you only said at that moment that you were because after her announcing to everyone that she thinks it is gross not to be you would have been embarrassed to admit it.

As for your question about my choice in the matter, I had my first son circumcised, and will have the one I'm now carrying circumcised too.  I'm choosing to do it for the very reason you talk about in your opening paragraph. While I personally would not have cared if my husband had turned out to be uncut on our wedding night, in a culture where the majority of men are, I know that many women would be freaked out by seeing one that doesn't look "normal" to them.  I don't want my sons' wives's first reactions to be, "Oh my God! What's wrong with it?"  That would not be good for anyone's ego.  Also, one of my husband's friends opted not to have his sons circumcised and as teenagers, showering in gym or after sports activities, their classmates always noticed and were wondering what was wrong with them or if they were deformed in some way.  A friend of mine who has a son about the same age as my son says that her doctor told her this:  Although he comes from a culture (Italy) where circumcision is not the norm unless one is Jewish, in this country, unless you have a really compelling reason to not do it, it would be better for your child's self-esteem in the long run if you did.

Answer 9

I thought you'd given up on this! Troll! What is with you and your obsession with posting this in the wrong section?

Harriet

Answer 10

Listen...honestly girls at that age are sometimes very immature. Im well into my 20s now but I do remember when I was that age that sometimes you just laugh at what everyone else is laughing at or you talk a big game, but in reality you have no clue what the h**l your even talking about,lol...It does not matter, I promise you, to most women whether a man is circumcised or not, in fact I would bet that most of those people have never seen an uncircumcised man because if they had they wouldnt be able to find a reason to call it 'gross'.  If you really like her AND trust her then bring it up when you two are alone together...but Im willing to bet that she wont get up and walk out on you if you two are together intamately.  Good luck and dont worry about it too much...and by the way this is all coming from a girl who married a smokin hot UNcircumcised man ; )

Answer 11

Lying wasn't cool, but I understand the pressure to feel that you should lie.

If it gets to the point where you really are going o sleep with her, tell her the truth. If she's a girl worth sleeping with she won't be a b*tch and she will be mature about it.

There is nothing wrong with an uncircumcized p***s, and any woman who thinks it's "gross" or would let that interfere with a potential relationship has her own issues and is just plain ignorant.

Answer 12

You should have an honest talk with her before you get into the heat of the moment.  Tell her the truth, that you lied to her about being circumcised and that you were embarrassed to admit it before.  If she doesn't want to be with you because you aren't circumcised then she's pretty shallow and you deserve better than her.

Answer 13

They only say that because they are ignorant.  Most men in America are circumcised, and so it's not 'the norm' for man not to be.  Trust me when you're in the moment, she's not going to care.  She only says that because she's probably never even seen a p***s that isn't circumcised, and probably wouldn't know the difference if she saw it.  A p***s is a p***s, and in my experience, the uncircumcised men make better lovers than the circumcised ones.  She probably heard someone talk about it and assumed that was the position she should take as well.  Tell her not to knock it unless she's tried it.  She's just a silly little teenager. Wait til you get into your 20's... no girl is going to care unless she's superficial and doesn't like good s*x.

Answer 14

I dont think you should. This girl obviously is going by what her friends have told her. There is a misconception that uncircumcized men are unclean and smelly and unhygienic, blah blah. Its stupid and unfounded. Also, this girl sounds a little judgmental and immature. "ew thats gross". Yeah thats not a reaction you want in the heat of the moment. I promise there are girls out there that wouldnt mind the uncut look. I wouldn't for sure. My husband is circumcized but if he hadn't been, it wouldn't have changed a thing. You might just want to be honest with her and see her reaction to see how she really feels. maybe start by talking about all the misconceptions about circumcised men.

I'm not having my baby circumcised when he is born. God made him that way, who are we to change that?