Bond with a horse?

Question

So i've decided Im going to sell my horse sometime this year or next spring. Its giving me heart aches. I love this horse, with all my heart.

Have you ever had a bond with a horse that you knew you had to sell? because you were past the point in your life and needed something to move up on? I dont think i will be able to watch the trailer pull away, but it would eat me alive to not be there. I cant get another horse, and i need a faster horse for barrels. this is killing me... advice, and knowing im doing the right thing is needed. I've had this horse 4 years... hes my life

Answer 1

This is the hardest thing you can do when you are envolved with horses but your agruements on why you have to sell are pretty convincing.

If he has been a good enough hors eto keep for 4 years then you know that it would be a watse to keep him from using his full potential with somebody else like he did with you.

On the topic of not knowing whether to be there or not my opinion  is that it is maybe your last chance to see him and also if you don't you will regret it. He has been a good horse to you so even if you cry you can have one last cuddle in his mane.

Answer 2

y do u need to sell him? if its money u need for another then get it a different way. u can always speed a horse up but i cant always slow them down.

if u must sell him, try selling him to someone close or making a deal with a contract stating that the horse goes back to u if anything happens.

i kno wat your going thro, i had an excellent mare. her name was Holly. she was a black quarter horse mare, and i trained her. she was perfect. flying lead changes, fast, sweet. everything. but she hurt her neck after getting tangled in her blanket one winter day and altho she healed she was never as fast or as good as she used to be. so, i traded her for the gelding i have now, Chubs.

it killed me to leave her. and i did not really want to do it but my mom pushed me in to it.

i did not even cry until a day later. But, we traded her at my moms family's ranch. theses 2 very good old ranchers took her and vowed never to sell her so to this day she is with them and is doing very well. and we will get her back if something happens. i still see her too. and now im blessed with a very wonderful gelding - Chubs.

anyway, i wish u thew best and i kno wat it feels like. so dont put u both thro that. u can find another way.

best wishes!!!

: D

Answer 3

Find a Small person to ride him and have him on a sort of loan thing where you are. You can have your new bigger horse but still have contact with this guy. You can help train the small reason and still ride him out for pleasure. They can help with cost of his keep and you won't have to say good bye.

If you find the right person for him and they want to buy him you will "know" it's another love match and it will be easy to let go.

You also have loads of time. Do not rush into anything. Ask the Universe to help find the little guy the right person. For his greater good....some one perfect will show up, until then keep doing what your doing, but don't be sad around him, he will pick up on this and wonder why.

Answer 4

i definatly know what you mean! its so hard. i had a horse..he was 18 yrs old..i got him last november and he was everything i wanted. he was my everything, my life. i LOVED that horse with all my heart. I ride english so i do jumping. So it turned out that the owner before me hadnt ridden him in about 3 yrs so when i started workin him hard, His previous injury related to tendons and ligaments in his cannon bone area started to hurt him really bad. to the point where he was refuzing every single jump. I took him to a leg specialist and he told me what was wrong. There is a "treatment" that they are trying to develop called shock wave that we tried..but it didnt work. My parents told me we had to let him go because we couldnt board two horses. This was this past April. I know i definatly didnt have him as long as you had your horse. But my heart hurt i cried every single day. It was awful. We ended up giving him to a friend that has about 100 acres. He was just going to be a pasture horse.(which made it better cause that is what i wanted for him) We drove him up to the land..as we drove off he ran up to the gate( as if to say..why are you leaving me here)..it made my heart sink...but i knew in the long road it would be better for him. I still think about him daily, but i know he sin a better place probibly fat and happy

so when i think about him now it makes me smile. :]

just know that its going ot be ok and your going to get something better that you need. Just sell him to someone that you know will take care of him and it will made you feel so much better

I hope this helped you cause i know exactly how u feel right now.

I hope everything goes well and you can most definatly email me if you need to talk!

Answer 5

A horse is for life, not just for christmas.

Maybe sell him somewhere local where he will have a good, lifelong home. You will b happy to see him happy, and most buyers will allow previous owners to come and give them cuddles from time to time.

Answer 6

I've never had to sell a horse before so I don't know how rough it is but I do know what it is like to have to put a horse down. Thats the most gut wretching thing ever. My horse that I had since I was in pre-school had cancer and we had to put her down so she wouldnt suffer anymore....I miss that girl.

Answer 7

we run a lessons program and my parents are saying we need to let go of some too i know its hard but just think about how he will be going to a place where he will really be loved and needed if you get a new horse he will be lonely he has been wonderful for you and done so much for you let him have a chance to help someone else. just keep that in mind and it will make it a little easier

Answer 8

I'm so so sorry. I understand completely.. I just went through it.

I got put on an arab about two years ago. Scruffy looking thing. A weird, curly coat, blanket rubs, and he constantly kept hurting his back. Still, he was gorgeous-- he had lovely conformation, a beautiful bay color, and this star that was perfect on one side, but seemed to "shatter" over his eye on the other.

My first ride on him was d**n near a perfect ride.

He had his issues, and we worked through them. Nobody else wanted to deal with it, anyway. Eventually, I started leasing him, and I developed a bond with him that I can't even describe. He was my best friend and partner. He'd follow me around. Someone else would have him in the crossties, and I'd walk up, and he'd just light up and come prancing over to me. I remember sitting in his paddock late at night, and he'd just come and stand beside me. His issues became non-existant, and physically, he looked beautiful. Everyone wanted to ride him.

The hard part about leasing is that you know at the end of the day, the horse isn't yours. I found that out the hard way-- one day, my coach called me up, and said the barn had shut down. She had moved to another place, the owners of the barn had been really nasty to her, and she didn't take my horse.

It was so strange. I considered him "my" horse. In every way-- except on paper.

I think you understand how heartbreaking it was for me.

I called up the owner in tears, and said I had to go out there and say goodbye. She agreed, and I went out there, and had the best ride of my life on him-- he was perfect under saddle, so just for the h**l of it, I let him gun it around the ring. He had the time of his life, and he didn't want to quit. I spent hours just giving him love and attention. I wish he had been a brat, so it would've been easier.

The owner offered him to me for about half of what he was worth, but I knew I"d never be able to afford it. Besides-- physically, I was getting to big for him. Then again, I had looke d too tall on him for so long, I just ignored it. But I had no other option, so I left.

It was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with, emotionally. I miss that horse to pieces. I guess the best thing to do is to keep riding.. Just deal with it. But if you love the horse that much-- maybe it's worth considering if the horse means more to you, or a faster barrel race?

Answer 9

keep him! imagine he is like a best friend (well, a human best friend) and you lost that best friend forever through death. you would lose your horse forever, just like he has died if you sell him. think of not selling him as preventing death. somethings are just too prescious to lose, and you have a choice of whether you want to lose him or not. maybe you could lease him or something to other people, and he stays on your property. then you could get money from that to keep another horse.

Answer 10

What if...the new owner, had so much love, he or she, could not live life, without, your horse. Do some research about the new prospective owner.

Answer 11

Don't sell him. Just add a friend to the pasture.

Answer 12

So why don't you keep this horse and still get another one? I could not fully underustand you but I think you said you can't get another horse. Why don't you keep him? 1 is better  then none. I would keep him and still get another one! You can't sell friendship and imagine the horse when he leaves...he will be devistated!

Answer 13

Why dont you keep him and get another horse... or do you need money to buy another one? I know i cant and wont sell my pony

Answer 14

I think the bond is too strong. Please, dont sell him. You love him way to much to put the both of you in the stress. Just keep practicing with him. Help him build more stamina and endurance. He could do it, you never know.

Answer 15

no but i think i can help  the sooner the better cuz it well eat ur heart every time u see that horse and know u have to sell he. gust know where he is going  to end up dont sell he at a auction cuz a lot of horses end up at the slater house in Mexico put a add in the local paper and then see the family hes going spend the rest of hes life with    hope that helps. :)

Answer 16

Not that I had to sell. I've had a couple that have died, that I was close to!

I also have some that will NEVER be sold! They will always be around, until either they, or I die!!!