Books on children, discipline? Ones that you have tried and have found useful!?

Question

Any names of books that you have found that have been helpful in finding a solution to problems with a child (9 years old) not listening or behaving when you are not around.

Answer 1

Anything by Christopher Green. Great books with a sense of humour!

Answer 2

The New Strong Willed Child by Dr. Dobson, he has several other books as well as a podcast. Google "Focus on the Family" to find his website.

Answer 3

Parenting with Love and Logic is a great resource.  It's really reshaped the way I think about my role as a parent - from disciplining to guiding.  The emphasis is on a child learning to make decisions that bring good results for them, rather than behaving in order to avoid a punishment.

Answer 4

I am an education major entering my Senior year. Last year in one of my classes, we had to read "How to Talk so Kids will Learn" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Although it was about how to keep children behaving in school, I think you could use a lot of the hints given in the book. The same authors also wrote "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk" which is aimed at parents. Hopefully this helps. The one I read was really interesting and I found it enjoyable to read!

Answer 5

I am a big fan of attachment parenting. Dr. Sears has many books such as The Discipline Book. He speaks of disciplining at the same time as making a stronger bond between you and your child. So the child does things out of love and respect for you, more than fear of consequences.The child wants to keep your trust, so they don't do bad things even if you're not around. My mother raised me in this way too, and I never got into much trouble, thinking 'what will she think if i do that?'

Answer 6

Here's a great book that I found from Amazon.

Raising Great Kids on Your Own by David and Lisa Frisbie.

Answer 7

1,2,3 magic. a friend used it on her kid and it worked, it works to an extent here.

Answer 8

I have never read a book on parenting that I found usefull.  It's all a bunch of c**p.  Your child is 9 so talk to them like a person and not a parent.  Let them know what they did was wrong, why it was wrong, and ways to go about it next time.  Kids mess up and make bad choices and try to get away with whatever they can mostly because the adults in their lives don't treat them with respect and open honest answers.  I have two sons who are 12 and 10 and they are awesome.  When they ask a question I tell it to them straight.  When they do something wrong I tell them why it was wrong and we brainstorm on better ways to go about it.  When I want them to do something they don't want to do I explain to them why it is important to do what your parents ask without questioning it and how doing what is asked of you is a sign of maturity and repsect for the fact that the parent has given them life and taken care of them and will provide for them as long as they live.  My kids would jump through hoops for me because they know I would do the same for them.

Answer 9

I would look into childrens books by Joy Berry.  She is a great author and she explains the why kids may do things to make the kid understand and how it affects others.  She has a long list of topics that are books and they really help!

Answer 10

The New Strong Willed Child-James Dobson...

The New Dare To Discipline-James Dobson...

Answer 11

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Kaz...

This guy is a child psychologists and encourages praise when acting appropriately instead of discipline when not.  More like ignoring the bad behaviour.

It has been reccomended by many doctors and child behaviourists.  

I've heard great things about it and actually just read about it in a parenting magazine and did my own research on it.  I'm going to go get it this weekend.

Answer 12

try watching the supernanny shows. they help