Boss asked my friend to move into the spare room in his house. What excuse can he use to say no?

Question

The boss's family includes his wife, son, and daughter. My friend is around the same age as his children (nearly 30 years old). My friend does not want to give up his privacy by moving in but he is okay with the extra work he'll most likely have to do. What excuse can he use to tell the boss that he can't move in with the boss and his family?

Answer 1

I'm not really sure why he has to make an excuse why cant he just say no thank you. Either way he can just say sorry Ive found another place.

Answer 2

best thing i can think of is telling the boss that he has found a place and thanks for being generous

Answer 3

Why does your friend need to make up an excuse?  He is an adult and can speak up for himself.  Tell the boss that he'd rather keep his own place but is available for extra work as needed.  It's odd that an employer would want an employee to give up their home and move in with them anyway.  Maybe there's more involved here and your friend needs to be careful.

Answer 4

I would say this, "I don't feel it appropriate for me to move in with my superior nor do I feel comfortable with the notion."

Answer 5

He could say he has some sexual issues that shouldn't be exposed to families.

Answer 6

Why did your boss ask your friend to move in?  

Your friend doesn't owe the boss any explanation.  A simple "Thank you for the invitation, but I won't move in with your family" is sufficient.  And tell you friend that after he says that much, it's time to SHUT UP.  If he keeps talking and trying to explain himself, he's only going to say something awkward, uncomfortable, and unprofessional.

And the next thing you need to tell your friend is that his personal problems don't come to the office.  If he's desperate for someplace to live for whatever reason, the need for a new home and the reason for the need aren't appropriate office talk.  You eventually lose a lot of credibility with your coworkers when everybody knows your whole personal life and all your problems.

By the way, if the boss fires your friend only because the friend won't move in, then there's something else going on even if it's only in the boss's head.  In that case, moving in would have been a disaster and your friend is better off with a new job.

Answer 7

He will not lose his job for being polite and say in a polite way to the boss.. I really appreciate your offer but I quite like my independence but it was kind of you to offer me a spare room.. that is professional and polite and honest and he can't get fired for saying that.

Answer 8

There is no need for an excuse in this case, sounds very much like his boss is trying to take advantage of him by making him totally dependant on him and making him feel obliged to do even more extra work. I would turn down the offer without being rude but I wouldn`t use an excuse either.