Bossy Mother-In-Law. Help!!!

Question

My mother-in-law thinks she knows everything, and always has an opinion about everything. She always tells me how to take care of my baby and what I should and shouldn't be doing. It's driving me crazy. I don't want to argue with her because she lives with us. My husband will stand up to her, but he's not always around. If I say anything to her, she gets offended like I just ran over her cat or something. And lately she's been saying that we should have waited to have kids(I was pregnant when my husband and I got married), and we should have spent time together before thinking about a baby. It's not like I can change it now. I love my husband, but I hate my mother-in-law. I've often thought about leaving him because of her. I've told him this and it doesn't seem to make much of an impact. If things keep going like this, I will leave. I'm under enough stress with out her trying to run our lives. What should I do? Should I confront her and face the consequences or just keep gritting my teeth and ignore her?

Answer 1

Why is your mother n law living with you?  It's not the baby that should not be there, it is her.

My daughter has a mother n law just like her.  My daughter has 5 children and when my daughter corrects them, her mother n law has to correct them differently until the children does not know who to mind.

Her husband takes his mothers side.  One good thing is that she does not live with them nor live in the same state but comes to visit them ofter since the twin boys were born.

You would think that these mother's would want there sons to have  a happy home instead of having conflict because of them.

What you need to do is tell your husband it's either your mother or me and the baby but you can't have all three of us living in the same house.

I hope you have some where for you and the baby to go if he chooses his mother.  Do you own your home?  If so, tell him and his mother to leave.  Don't leave your home.  Call a lock smith and have the locks changed as well as the garage door opener.

Get a legal separation because maybe he will come to his senses and come home without his mother.

If you have not talked with your mother n law at all, then you need to tell her how iritating she is.  And that you don't like her bossing you all the time and it has to stop or the two of you cannot live in the same house.

Tell your husband that you are going to talk to with her about her attitued toward you and that he can be present or not during your talk with her.

Good luck!!  

Answer 2

Stop taking it from her. She keeps it up because she can get to you. Tell her what you want when she does it again. Tell her also to mind her own business. I would not leave him over this. He stands up to her when he is around and it is up to you to do it when he is not.  

Answer 3

Why is your MIL living with you?  I wouldn't stand for that type of abuse in my house.

What do you say to her when she says things like that?  Do you just clam up and not say anything?  You're afraid of confrontation, but maybe that's what you need to get her the heck out of there!

Look her straight in the eye, and say, "I know you probably mean well when you say that, but it hurts me and I don't like it."

You and your husband need time to be a nuclear family unit, and to bond with your baby.  Tell your man that this situation is causing you grief and that she needs to find another place to live, ASAP.