Both married, my ex from high school has contacted me and now I can't stop thinking of her. ?

Question

Nothing inappropriate has happened. Can anyone relate?

Answer 1

Seems like questions of this nature of being posted alot...

You are MARRIED...

Quit talking with the EX...

How foolish can you possibly be???

Ask yourself this: How would YOU feel is your wife was talking to an EX like this and walking around in Lala land about him??

...I suspect you would NOT be doing kart wheels over it!

Answer 2

You need to tell her to stop calling you how would you like it if you wife was chatting it up with her ex.

Answer 3

This has become so common with the advent of the internet - it's just so easy to find someone even years later. It's also a psychological issue - the connections we make in our late teens are almost like an imprint on our brains ( not to mention our hearts) so the pull on our heartstrings never really seems to go away  - the tiniest little thing, like an email or a phone call, can set our hearts on fire again, even though we are somewhat happily married. That what if somehow seems better than what is now. But would it really be so if you really knew your ex as well as you now know your wife? If you're concerned about keeping things appropriate, just break off the contact. This can be a highly volatile situation. Good luck!

Answer 4

Nothing has happened...YET. Change your e-mail address and phone number before it goes to the next level. You're married and you'd hate it if your wife did this wouldn't you?

Answer 5

yeah I want my ex back but ya know if it worked we would still be together... maybe hang out and see if  you reallly are wanting to stay in ur marriage or if you should just stay friends

Answer 6

Nothing inappropriate has happened. Whats your wifes opinion on this?

If she doesnt know then your hiding something and if your hiding something your wrong

Answer 7

there is a reason she is your ex.  stop thinking about her you will mess everything up with your spouse.  Yes I can relate I was the new girlfriend when the ex tried to come back into his life.

Answer 8

LOL., what is this, the summer for old flames coming back? My first love just contacted me. We're both married, I'm happily married, him not so much.  It's normal to start reliving old times in your head once you hear from someone that was a part of your life once. If these thoughts start taking away from your everyday life (sounds like yours are) it could be a problem. Was your life happy before your ex got a hold of you? So why should hearing from this person cause a wrinkle? Perhaps there are some unresolved feelings on both ends. You are married, and that comes first.  Something inappropriate is indeed happening if you can't get her out of your mind. Be careful. I really don't see any need to have a relationship with an ex. I explained such to mine.  

Answer 9

that's pretty normal, it's basically a what if kind of situation

Answer 10

Sounds like you are suffering from the "Grass is Greener" syndrone.

It's okay to fantasize, just be careful when you act.  Look very closely at what you may be losing, should you decide to act on that fantasy.

You also need to remember the reason she became your ex.