Bothersome Brother & Autistic 1 2?

Question

humph... ma brother, who is 8 is soo stubborn and for some reason i think he really, really resents me! He isnt clever and i am trying to teach him and my other autistic brother level 3 work and they are finding some of it difficult. They dont even WANT to learn and my brother the 8 year old starts crying once told of/told to learn and i havent even shouted. I dont shout, i am very patient.

Answer 1

hi. they may want to learn but cannot. many kids with autism are also developmentally delayed.  my    youngest child has autism and is dd. her brother knows her limits but keeps on trying. they cry because thye have no idea wha tyou are talking about to be blunt. do not give up. my child is nearly23 and grad from hs but not on academics. she has come a long long way with in school therapy for many things here in the usa.

she still is learning new things all the time. she learned a new sentence this week and has become so much more independent.

sometimes just play with them keep talking to them and know they are learning but in thier own way.           most of all, love them cuz no one else will.  they have feelings just lie you do.

Answer 2

are both your brothers autistic.

my brother is autisic too, hes 2 years younger than me and for as long as i can imagine ive been trying to teach him.

everyone in my family always says i have to help him, and i do, he just doesnt seem to want to learn.

i feel you.

my brother is in grade 9 and just learning to read now.

we'll be in the car and he'll grab my ipod and tell me what it say out of the blue.

but when i want him to read something he would look the other way and try to sound it out.. i get mad because he doesnt even try to get it, because hes looking in a totally different direction.

i usually dont shout either and just give it up.

it makes me mad because for the longest time he couldnt read anything... ever since he started highschool hes been learning more and more words.

i dont try too hard because i know he works hard at school and at least THEY are doing something right.

i think its a lack of interest. when my brothers at home all he wants to to is play games on the computer and watch pokemon on youtube. your bros could be the same way.

Answer 3

You are a great sister for trying to help your brothers.  However, the thing with autism is that language (talking to them) usually means very little and frustrates them very easily.  Just using the phrase that it's "time to learn" may be enough to intimidate them.  They may feel pressured when and where you are trying to teach them, too.

Their thinking processes are much different.  Do either of your parents or their teachers have any suggestions for you?  

Could you possibly reward them by doing something they like after they are done?  First homework, then ?