Boy at school stomped on my daughter's bag twice and broke her headphones...how would you handle this?

Question

I plan on going to the school in the morning, requesting a parent conference and asking that they replace the headphones.

Or should I just forget it and but her more?

Both kids are 14.

Answer 1

Just beat the kid and make him pay for the headphones.

Answer 2

I'm a student...

I think schools don't replace stuff like that because it has no association with them or education. Unless you mean you're requesting the replacement from the boy.

Answer 3

yip start with the school as it is their responsibility to look after your child while she is there... the boys parents should hopefully be apologetic about the headphones and offer to buy her more... definitly don't just get her more and forget about it as she may be being bullied by this boy and if you let it slide then he will continue to do so.  i wouldn't go as far as to request that he stay away from her as that may make her a bit of an outcast amongst her friends if he is also friends with them.  the school should make it clear that this behaviour is unacceptable and should take it on themselves to keep an eye out for bullies.

Answer 4

i agree with what you are doing they are old enough to know that this behaviour is not right therefore i think it would be ver apropriate for you 2 take it up with the school and with parents and make sure the earphones are replaced...if they were younger then i would say leave it be but not at 14

Answer 5

choke his misbehavin' *** with the headphone cords...haha

Actually, I'd recommend that his parents reimburse you for the destruction.  It'd be no different then if he vandalized your daughters bike, or damaged her glasses or something like that.  He should have to pay for being such a little sh*t

Answer 6

I would definitely go to the school and request a parent conference to have the bully pay back for the headphones.  This kid that broke your daughter's headphones needs to be taught a lesson.

1.  He needs to learn self-control and not touch or break someone else property.

2.  He could be doing this bullying to other students, not just your daughter.

3.  If you just bought her new ones without saying something, this boy would not learn from his mistakes.

I don't have any kids myself yet.  If and when I do, I would want them to be protected as much as possible from kids like this in school.  To be protected they need to be educated and know what the difference is between right and wrong.  Speak up, say something to teachers, say something to friends or a counselor.  Never hold it in or stay in silence or else the bully will win.

Answer 7

Go to the school and BE pissed.

Answer 8

Go to the little ***'s parents and tell them "Hey, your little twerp destroyed my daughter's property. Someone is going to replace them, and it's going to be either you or him."

It's not your daughter's fault unless she did something to provoke the stomping.

Answer 9

Just because the school allows headphones doesn't mean they should be used in school.  Your daughter took her chances with taking the headphones to school.  You ALLOWED her to do so.  They got broken...oh well.  Whether you buy her more or not is up to you but the boy's parents owe you nothing.  There is an implied liablity here and since YOU allowed your daughter to take the headphones to school YOU are liable for their getting broken.  If the school allowed kids to smoke in the hallways would you send your daughter with a pack of cigarettes?

Answer 10

I would be mad too but I don't know if it's worth it to request that the parents replace them. I think if you approach them like that they'll just get defensive. I would tell the parents what happened and if they're decent people they'll offer to replace them. If they don't then you would have to take them to court to fight for the money and I think that's a huge overreaction. I would tell them what happened, hope they're decent enough to offer to replace them and if they aren't, move on.

Answer 11

if the headphones are cheap; i say let it go; but tell the

school about the situation.

if they were 4O bucks like my skull candy headphones;

i would ask the school to set up a conference between

you and the boys mother.

the boy or its mother should replace the headphones.

basically it was like destroying private property.

Answer 12

Do what you feel you need to do.  Just don't freak out on the parents of the boy because believe me, they probably wish that there son didn't do stupid things as well.  

Having said that, don't lose your cool if it doesn't go the way you want it to go.  

If they refuse to buy just get over it.  If anything the prinicipal may agree with the fact that your daughter should not have had headphones at the school to begin with.  

Just don't hold any kind of bad feelings.  You are only making yourself miserable holding on to it and always carry yourself in the manner knowing that you are setting an example for your daughter.  This is a life lesson she is learning and it is one that you are continuing to teach her buy your actions.

Good Luck!  I am sure you are mad because I would be pissed to.  Just breathe and calm down and when you have that conference, make sure you don't say anything you would regret!!!!

Answer 13

Fill her backpack up with some heavy books and tell her to just walk up to him and smack him in the face with her bookbag. He obviously can't do anything back or he will be in deep S**t and she can just deny everything, they will think he is a horrible little b*****d if he hits your daughter and won't believe a thing he says, he might even get expelled, which would be cool.

Answer 14

No, convict the tard that did that. I had a similar thing happen 2 me, except it was a rare shrunken head that the boy stepped on.

Answer 15

Kids are mean... not as mean as adults but they're still mean.

I would do exactly what you planned, don't teach you daughter to take c**p.

Answer 16

that is the best thing u can do go to the school and ask for a parent conference so that the parents replace the headphones and give the boy some kind of punishment for his behavior

Answer 17

it is not the schools responsibilty to buy your daughter new headphones. if anyones, its the boys. you should still talk to the school about it though so that they can keep an eye on the boy. im sure hes probably bullying others if hes doing it to your daughter. i hope i helped...

<3becca :)

Answer 18

u should do a parent confeerence and tell the bully to **** off and get a life i feel for ur daughter going through so much and ask the boys parents to replace it !!

Answer 19

It depends how your daighter feels...she may feel humiliated if one of her parents makes a scene, and might make them worse, if they are intentionally bullying her.

Discuss it with her. If things happen like this more often, you can even get the police involved.

Hope she is okay

Answer 20

Go to the school and stomp on his bag twice, if you know what I mean.

Answer 21

You should have the conference with her teacher and the principle.  If this happened today and you want the conference tomorrow, the other kid's parents probably won't be there.  If this kid has a history of bullying kids, then I would follow up to make sure some type of punishment is followed through on.  

As far as the headphones, what is your school's policy on them?  My neighbor's kid had his cell phone stolen from him at school and they were basically told, oh well, he wasn't suppose to have it in school.

Answer 22

I would find out who the boy was and call the boys mother!!! TS

Answer 23

You should not let this matter drop that easily. You have to tell the principles that it is a serious matter. What if the boys harassed your daughter again? But this time, something more major like physical abuse? You also have to tell the boy's parents so that they will know and be able to talk their child.

Good luck and don't be afraid to speak your mind.

Answer 24

yeah i think youre doing the right thing.. the school should be able to help you sort things out, and you can get teachers to keep an eye on her (without suffocating her!) to make sure shes not getting bullied

good luck, hope everything turns out ok  =]

AHH wait ... edit lol ... i agree with that kid up there  ^^ ... bringing yourself into it would probably end up being very embarrasing for your daughter.. if you do feel strongly about it then by all means go to the school but make sure that its ok with your daughter... i remember what I was like at 14 and I wouldnt personally have wanted that to be honest, so definately talk to her about it first!

Answer 25

Id confront the guy and be like this time your lucky next time i wont be so kind.

Like give him a threat like that even lie if you have to just make him scared.

If hes only 14 well he might take it seriously.

Answer 26

i know im 14 and if my mom went to the school to deal with that sort of thing i think i would probably be teased even more and that that would be just embarresing.. buy her new ones and if it happens again just phone the school. tell your daughter just to be careful around that person, trying to avoid them without them noticing...

i know i would really not like it if my mom came to my school or made a deal out of it..

that would probably make matters worse..

help your daughter deal with it by herself.. with moms help its just another way for people to bug her and tease her..

Answer 27

well you should go to the school and ask for the boy's parents...talk to them tell them that the boy has been bullying(or whatever you like to call it) your daughter but also talk to the boy himself so he doesnt blame the girl for him getting in trouble by his parents so talk to both of them and tell the parents to keep an eye on their son and tell their son to stay away and stop it. hope it'll work out<3 =]

Answer 28

Go tell them. It's obviously intended so that's bullying.

I wouldn't like it if someone did that to me. You're doing the right thing to go and tell the people at the school.

Answer 29

no you should go to the school and tell the principle what he did and tell him that u  would like a talk with his parents and make his parents buy ur daughter some new ones

Answer 30

Wait till he gets off of the buss and scare the little b*****d till he pees on him self. Then smack you kid for not sticking up for herself.

Answer 31

What is she doing taking headphones to school in the first place?

No that wasn't right but she can't keep her backpack on her back?