Boy & girl sleepovers?

Question

i am kinda mad at my mom because she wont let me spend the night at one of my best friends house! im thirteen going on 14 and hes 11 going on 12. it would have been at his house, i would sleep on the couch in the living room, he would sleep in his room with the door shut, and his parents would be right down the hall from the living room. i got really upset because now i feel like my parents dont trust me or my friend that they know very well. i have had a sleep over with him before 1 year ago with 2 of my other best friends (girls) and my little sister. (no he's not g*y we're all just really good friends) its been like this since i turned 13. i was gonna bring over a movie like, maybe something like pirates of the caribean, and watch it till his parents said we had to go to sleep. completely harmless! and i KNOW nothing bad will happen. im actually freaked out by s-e-x i havent even kissed a boy yet!! so can anyone find ANYTHING wrong with this? cause i dont!

Answer 1

Well I agree with you. Like I'm freaked out by stuff like that too. However I know my mom wouldn't let me sleep over at one of my guy friends houses even if we've knowned him for years. Moms are just like that. They don't want anything to happen. Your mom is probably just worried and doesn't want anything to happen to you. That's how my mom is.

Answer 2

hahaha...well when you get older youll understand wut your parents mean

Answer 3

why would u wanna sleep over!!!!!!

Answer 4

ur parents dont want anythin to happen.. and to a point i can understand.. im ur age.. and i would get mad too.. but.. its different cuz im a L*****n.. soo lol. .there still worryin boutboys.. cuz there in denial.. but wateva..lol... anyways.. but i do understand... there is worry.. because.. even though u may not want to.. boys do have more hormones.. sometimes.. just its weird.. just u gotta be careful and u really have to understand.. cuz some boys do actually pretend to be nice and everythin but they also can be very sadistic.. just be careful and in doin this there jsut tryin to do wats best for u..maybe ull understand.. but believe me its worth it.. u would definetly listen if u got raped.. soo just dont.. be careful dont get mad at ur parents for doin tht.. its really wats better for u.. and ull understand when  have ur own daughter maybe.. just tryin to protect wat they love the most.. :) lol

Answer 5

Yh ur right. ur parents must not trust u. but think of it from their point of view. their daughter is starting puberty, new emotions and will start liking lads. now 4 their daughter to sleep at a boys house without any friends there, they r bound to think u will be up to something.

Answer 6

  I know your upset cus you say nothing is going on. And it's not that your parents don't believe you. Maybe they don't want people thinking bad of them for letting you sleep over a boys house. And don't want people to think bad of you.  People can take things and run with it. Like false rumors.  So please try to think outside the box.

Answer 7

You are too young and should LISTEN to your parents.  Call me a goody-two-shoes, but I was raised to say "Yes, Father" When I was spoken to and "Sorry, Father"  if I ask a dumb thing that he rejects.  Your parents are smart and know what they are talking about.  They may not trust your friend's parents enough to keep an eye on you.  Look, do as your parents say.  If you don't it comes off as immature or rebellious or you end up doing something stupid.  As harmless as it seems to you it is as if your little girl just asked if she can spend a night at a house that inhabits the opposite s*x.  

Answer 8

no unless their family friends or something like that minors should not be having boy girl sleepovers your parents are right its not that they dont trust you, know what boys from 12 and up have on there minds and even if your parents trust you that shouldnt be happening at your age

Answer 9

psh ur moms right, ur at a young age where u wanna do whatever u want and u can't. its her rules, get over it.

she doesnt want u sleeping over at boys houses, cuz that'll lead u to believe that you can do whatever u want.

now stop being a baby and act mature. geeeeeeez.  

Answer 10

Well, when didn't do this when I was younger but my step daughters have both done it.  They have a large group of friends that they hang out with and they have group sleep overs.  So far, nothing bad has happened and the parents of the boys home they visited monitored the situation very closely. My step daughters have asked to have a group sleep over in our home and I told them it would be fine just as long as everyone follows the rules.  All of the kids of course said they would and I have spoken to all of the parents of the kids that will be visiting.  We will be having a pizza party, with movies and games and just letting the kids hang out together.  When the night comes my daughters are to be in their rooms with their girlfriends and the boys are to sleep in the living room on the floor.  I have asked that they bring their sleeping bags.  This seems to be the trend right now for teenagers that are your age.  I am going to have the sleepover and give the girls a chance to prove themselves.  Your parents are just being parents and are doing what they think is right.  Just remember they love you no matter what the decision is.  They only want the best for you.  I am stll hesitant about the sleepover because I dont want the girls to get a bad name at school and me looking like I condone anything at our house because I don't.  I can see where your parents are coming from because they just want to be sure you are respected at school and in your community.  I want the same thing for my step daughters.  If this causes a problem you can bet I will not allow it to happen again.  And, if the girls get some bad feed back from people at school then they may not want to do it again either.  Just hang in there and know they love you.

Answer 11

I realize that this isn't what you want to hear but your mom is right.  However if you want her to trust you more and have more respect for you then you have to prove to her that you can be mature and accept her decisions however unfair they may seem to you.  Think of it this way, If you want to impress her you won't put up a huge fuss about her saying no.  I'm 16 now and my parents just let me sleep over at a guys house, they've never met the guy or his parents and they didn't even call to make sure that his parents would be home.  I've proven my responsibility to them and trust my word.  Show your mom you're mature and she'll (in time) trust you more and more.

Answer 12

lol, when ur a parent ull understand, as of right now respect there choise and just be a lil bumed

Answer 13

i think your parents are just at that point when they become a little less nice but to teach you lessons its all in your best intrests even if you don't think so. or at least in their heads