Boy trouble should i break up with him im so confused?

Question

okay well im with this guy and i really like him

but today he lied to me about a few things so i broke up with him

he lied about where he was and who he was with

he was with a girl and at her house

but yeah after i broke up with him i cried the rest of the day because i feel like i really love him soo we are back together and i dont know if i should stay with him or not this is so confusing

Answer 1

clearly he knew what he was doing wasn't right otherwise he wouldn't have lied to you. the way i do it is, if it wasn't you but a friend in the same situation, what advice would you give her. Its hard but usually what you've got in mind is the best solution

Answer 2

If he told you where he was going and who with, would you have said it was OK? Chances are he didn't feel that you would say it was OK. And that could be for a couple of reasons.

Maybe one time he hung out with a girl and told you the next day and he felt that you over reacted.

Maybe it's someone he has been hanging out with more frequently recently and you've been questioning him and he found it bothersome and unnecessary.

Maybe he knows you're jealous of everyone he hangs out with.

Maybe he thought you were going to say no so he didn't want to directly defy your opinion or get into a fight about it on the spot.

Of course none of these are based on actual knowledge of your situation but they are things to consider. Ask him why he lied, and promise you won't get mad at him. He obviously had a reason for lying and it was probably to protect you or the relationship.

Or he was cheating in which case he's just a liar and was protecting his own ***. In which case none of those reasons above would apply. Which would mean it's not something that you do to make him feel he can't tell you the truth but rather just him being selfish. and if that were the case you should break up with him.

Answer 3

once a liar always a liar. Once a cheater always a cheater. Leave him honey. You can do better then that.  Maybe you don't even realize it,but some people will be with someone just because it's easier to feel loved and you'd rather be with someone then to not be with anyone at all. Wouldn't you rather be respected and loved for someone who actually appreciates you. Don't fall back on him or go out with him again just because it feels better to be in  a relationship.  Trust me honey, you sound young and don't love him, you might feel all these strong feelings, but you don't literally love him.

Maybe you should watch this music video on youtube by cherish called unappreciated and think things over.

Answer 4

Signs of an unhealthy relationship is when lying happens. Relationships are built on honesty and trust. Why did he feel the need to lie to you if he was just innocently going over to another girl's house? He would probably lie to cover up what he was doing or what he intended to do. Think about it, if he had nothing to be guilty of, he would tell the truth and just say he was going over to some girl's house. Im glad you didn't let him play the "I didn't want you to get mad" card. That's a lame excuse. You trusted him, and he neglected how he would hurt you by lying. You did the right thing. So you got back together. Are you happy? do you feel as though you can trust him still? that you can forgive him and let him gain your trust back? I hope he knows how much he hurt you though. You shouldn't let him off the hook so easy if there is a next time. It just shows that he may be able to take advantage of your trust. I understand that you love him, but I hope you are able to see that you deserve someone better.  

Answer 5

If he lied about it.. you have to make sure he wasnt lying because he was guilty of cheating.  

Answer 6

It is exactly what you gave this topic's title:  "boy trouble".. he is trouble and he is a boy.  Run forrest, Run!  

Answer 7

What is so confusing about wanting to end things with a guy who is spending time with another girl, and then lying to you about it?  It sucks, but follow your instincts!  Run away from this guy!  Your best 'reveng'' would be to be happy and forget about him!  

Answer 8

The other girl is probably shallow anyway, if she knew he had a girlfriend, my guess is she had no motive. Chances are he didn't either. You could always give it another go. Somehow we always have a little voice telling us when its time to let someone go, I don't think you are going to find that answer here.