Boy troubles. really urgent! please help!?

Question

okay last year me and this boy really liked each other. well he had a girlfriend at the time, so we became like best friends. well his girlfriend is a really jealous person, and she viewed me as a threat, so she told him he wasn't allowed to talk to me anymore..

so over the summer i didn't talk to him AT ALL and when school started back up, he was still with his girlfriend..

well today my friend asked him if he still wanted to be my friend and he said "well i don't hate her. and im not not her friend"

what do i do? i really can't stand losing him as a friend. but his stupid girlfriend wont "let" him talk to me anymore! i just dont know what to do anymore!

i have a class with him tomorrow and i don't want to lose it in the middle of class and start crying...

oh hes a senior and im a junior, if it helps you understand.

please help me!!

thanks!

Answer 1

The good thing about being young is that you have a lifetime to make friends including guy friends.  But you have to understand that his girlfriend is jealous and you need to put yourself in her shoes, unless you are not a jealous person yourself you would understand.  As long as he doesn't hate you then your cool and maybe one day you can speak to his girlfriend and let her know how you feel but I don't think she will care anyways because he belongs to her and she doesn't want to lose him to you which will happen if she lets him go.  Now a days you need to watch your man or someone else will try to take him and I'm not saying that is your intentions.  Find yourself another friend but this time one without a girlfriend and you won't have any trouble.  

Answer 2

Talk to him yourself; never send a friend to do it.  And just tell him, "I miss being your friend.  Can we still talk and hang out?"

If his girlfriend really is that much a control freak, either she doesn't trust him (and they'll break up eventually) or she thinks you're better than her (and they'll break up eventually) ... either way, they're going to break up because he's going to get sick of being controlled by her.  Guys and girls can be friends and nothing more.  While you may like him, keep your feelings in check; it will all turn out right in the end.