My boyfriend works very hard, 6 days a week. We don't get to spend as much time together as either of us would like, as a result.
His day off is Thursday, and until now, ever since we started dating, I've worked on Thursdays.
I'm not working anymore, and am excited to finally spend time with him.
He's never been to a zoo before, and a month ago I started planning a day trip for us to New York, to the Bronx Zoo. Just the 2 of us.
His sister is a lot older than me, and she doesn't speak a WORD of english. Not even "hi." She's fresh-off-the-boat from El Salvador. I speak spanish, since my boyfriend does, but by no means fluently, and I have a really hard time understanding her because she talks REALLY fast.
She called my boyfriend last night to see if he could take her to the post office on Thursday. He told her he couldn't, because he was going to the zoo with me. And then, he invited her to come. I was standing right next to him. She said yes, and then he looked at me and said "That's ok, if my sister comes, right?"
No! If I wanted your sister to come, I would've invited her! But what could I do? He had already invited her, I couldn't just say "actually, it's not ok" with her on the phone. So I just said "well, i guess."
I wanted it to be just us. If his sister comes, it'll be awkward. If I speak to my boyfriend in english the whole time, she'll feel left out. He'll speak to her in spanish, and they'll talk, and I won't understand everything, and I'll be left out.
Is there a way to bring this up with my boyfriend tonight, and express that I really wanted tomorrow to be just the two of us, and she can gladly hang out with us some other time?
What would you do?
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