Boyfriend Family Trouble need help

Question

Im having trouble with my boyfriends family. We have been going out for a long time now. He mainly comes over my house because he lives with his grandparents and his mom and dad so the house is kinda crowded where he lives. Never have i once felt comfortable going over his house. All of his family makes me very nervous! I never think that anyone likes me, and i dont think that his family likes me. So for about a little under a year i havnt gone over his house. Though we only see each other once a week so its not like he comes over my house everyday. What should i do? How would i know if his family likes me? Does anyone have any suggestions or advice?

Answer 1

Some families like to test new, unfamiliar members comming into their house, that's normal because they want to see what is best for their son and the people he is dealing with. So what you should do is - Plan a day to go over to your boyfriend's house when the whole family is at home and eat dinner with them like as if it were a little get together. While your there with them, try to be socialble with the family and get to know them a little bit better. Also mention stuff about your boyfriend like what a great person he is. Try not to be a suck-up. Treat them and relate to them as if they were your own family. Don't be shy. Tell them about yourself and your family too. Comment them on their well beings and always keep a smile on your face. If you continue to follow this a few more times then they'll be comfortable with you and you'll be comfortable with them too. You'll show them and prove to them what kind of person you are. In the long run you'll gain and learn from it so you can be stronger with your boyfriend as well as his family.

Best of Luck.

Answer 2

I think you shouldn't let yourself be frightened by unfamiliar looks or facial expressions. And you should stand up for yourself when they're being judgemental. It's ok to be yourself and ask questions because the misunderstanding's probably on both sides.

Some families like to test new members so I think you'd find yourself getting along with them when you stop paying so much attention to what they think of you and just be yourself.