Boyfriend Left Me...?

Question

so my boyfriend of 3 years told me at the beginning of last month that he didn't feel the same about me and broke up with me. a week later i find out that i was pregnant and had a miscarriage. i told him i needed his support and he won't do anything but go and drink with friends. am i wrong for asking for support from him? i mean seriously we were togeather for 3 years. he tells me he has moved on and i should do the same. i'm trying to as hard as i can but it hurts to know i don't have his support or i'm not getting anything from him, no phone calls or text messages asking how im doing, nothing. what should i do?? i dont want to be with him after all this but i would like his support. thanks in advance! :)

Answer 1

i think that he should give you support. he should be concerned about you. I think its a good thing you guys broke up because if he is already treating you like a jerk, the future would not have been a good one for you two. Hes acting like a 5 year old. He needs to take responsibility for his actions

Answer 2

How is he to support you when you're not his woman anymore? Invest in some birthcontrol and condoms and you won't be in this boat anymore. I'm sorry if that is harsh, but that is the hard reality of things.

Answer 3

ok so like get another guy and kinda show him you new BF and then look like hot and like stuff then go and take off your top so then h**l be like DAM SHOULD OF STAYED WITH THAT *****

Answer 4

I'm sorry you're having to go through this, but his actions are really just affirming what he already told you; that he doesn't feel the same about you anymore.  You need to look at this as a fresh start, and a chance to become independent.  After 3 years, it's important that you see that you can live without him, and that you deserve someone better.  Yes, you do deserve his support, but unfortunately, he is being honest by telling you he doesn't feel the same way anymore, and that is why he isn't giving you the love and attention you need.  you can't force him to love you, and while it sucks he is being a jerk, just look at it as a blessing in disguise.  Now you know that this isn't the type of person you want to spend your life with.  

Answer 5

Aww you poor thing! Okay since you can't depend on your ex, try asking a family member or a close friend to help you with the baby. Having a baby is a very big responsibiility and I'm sure you would like some help! I hope everything goes well for you =)

-Pixie Bear

Answer 6

You cant get support from someone who doesn't care.He will no lnger be able to offer you any support.You need to go to friends or family for that.Also you can go speak to a pastor or counselor.He has left you and left you out of his thoughts and feelings.The quicker you can realize that your beating a dead horse the quicker you can start supporting yourself emotionally.This is very painful but you cannot help yourself heal with him.sorry.We all wish we could force men that do this to us to be men but it wont work .  

Answer 7

He is wrong and he should not be so mean to you! I would not wasted my time trying to call him! You can do so much better!!!

Answer 8

He should at least sympathize with what you went through. At the least, he doesn't even care that HIS future child was lost? If he doesn't even care about his own child then I don't see how he could care about anyone, honestly. I'm really shocked. You should seek support from your family, or friends if you don't want to tell your family. I don't think you will get any support from him, he sounds like a horrible person.  

Answer 9

You need to not depend on him anymore. He has chosen not to be a part of your life so just try and not include him in your life anymore. If he chooses to drink his life away instead of raising a family and things, thats his stupid choice.  

Answer 10

the question that you really have to ask yourself is: do you really want his support? he left you and on top of that he doesn't really care  about you  or the fact that you carried his baby so for that matter is his support really that necessary?. I would say no, people like him deserve to die or something.

Answer 11

OMG! He is a jerk. He should support you! Just because he broke up with you doesn't mean you can't have any friendly contact! I guess you can't force him to do anything, so instead try going to someone more gentle and caring. That will be a lot better then finally getting his support but him not wanting to do it and not being any good at making you feel better.

If your parents know and they aren't upset with you for getting pregnaut, try going to them for support. If you don't feel compfortable, try your very best friend. If that doesn't work, I'm not really sure what will.

Answer 12

I'm betting that he see's your "needing support" as just plain needy. He's probably assuming that you're just trying to spend time with him. You don't need someone like that. It will only cause negativity in your life. Breakups are always hard. But just keep pushing forward and thinking positive thoughts. Find support in family and close friends, or people that have been in a similar situation. Not him! He's bad news for obvious reasons. Best of Luck to you! :)

Answer 13

you have to accept it and let him be. he doesnt have to be there for you or call you or ask how you are. if he wanted to be there for you he wouldnt have left you. hes telling you to move on you should listen.

its hard to accept a break up, but trying to keep ties to him will stop you getting over him

if you are having a hard time dealing with your miscarrige you should rely on your family and friends for support.

Answer 14

MOVE ON...why on earth would you want support from a person like that? Get support from people that matter like your friends and family.

Answer 15

You will have to get your support from someone else...it is a good thing that you found out how he was before settling down. That right person is out there for you. Keep your chin up.

Answer 16

Look as hard as it is, sounds like he's a jerk! You don't need him around anyway and guys never can know what its like. If I were you I would get some consoling for you and not worry about him. It's a great loss when you loose a kid and you don't need him being a jerk bringing you down. Except that he does not seam to care and worry about you! You'll find someone else and then you can start a family with a person who cares! Take care and sorry about your loss! :(

Answer 17

I am sorry it happened and that he doesn't appear to be the person you want him to be.  

I think it is normal for you to want the support from him, but each person reacts differently.  You should try to get support from those friends and family that you know love you, unconditionally.  He doesn't seem to care, so I would not ask him for any support.

I am sorry it didn't work out and I am sorry your baby didn't make it.  Hugs to you.  Your family is there for you no matter what.

God Bless you.

Answer 18

sounds like god was telling you he wasnt the one to have children with, and i think most people would agree he sounds like an idiot ! it will get better in time hun, all i can say is focus on things you really want to do in life before oyu have children and go do them! and then you'll soon meet someone way better than that jerk and can have a baby with them in the right situation, i really hope you have a wonderful life ahead of you hunni x

Answer 19

find support from someone else, your girldfriends maybe, because your ex sounds like a complete d**k!

Answer 20

no its not wrong, but next time pick better boyfriends.

no girl should have to deal with this!

tell him;

''heyy a*****e you got me pregnant & you will support me now. quit being a little ***** and take it like a man."

and even with a miscarriage thats still very hard.

well i hope every works with you, good luck <3 (:

Answer 21

If he isn't willing to help you if you were to have a baby, then he's not worth it. He doesn't sound responsible. And by the way you described him, I think you should not move onto another guy so fast but be with your friends and I know you dated for along time but is he worth being miserable over?

Answer 22

hey your in love i can see that believe when i say he being like this because you probably call and text him allot and he thinking i can do anything and say anything and she will still be there show him that you moved on and you don't care do what you want and watch him come running back go have fun believe me do it and see who calling who and who texting who 3 years is a long time you just cant get over someone like that so try what i said and watch what happen girl =) good luck

Answer 23

if he doesnt have the guts to take care of you and support you through ur hard times then you two were not meant to be sorry but just let your parents guide you through this one gd

Answer 24

Dude mine lied to me about what college he was going to, he left to school/out of town w/ his gf (my x girlfriend) I met him through her....he wasn't my bf but we did spend a lot of time together and messed around (we fuuked)

Answer 25

leave him in your past get some family or friends to help you and there are allot of men out there some one will find you. and it will be great not only that but at the library there are lots of books with mom tips. hope i helped!=)

Answer 26

tell him how you feel. if he doesnt listen to you forget about him, and when he comes crawlin back to u say no cuz you never helped me with my problems. boyfriends are guys that you love and can tell anything to kinda like a husband except for you arent married. he's not doing his part so you should move on. think about other things. thats happened to me before, and it was hard, but i eventually got over it

Answer 27

i think that he should support you i mean you were pregnant and i think he should have been there for you even tho you were broken up! i mean it was his child so he should have been there for him/her! so i don't think you were wrong!  

Answer 28

He really doesnt sound worth it! and even if he did support u it doesnt sound like this guy would make much difference!

keep friends and family close and rid these sort of people from ur life!

i know its hard when u love someone but now u know what sort of person he is u need to move on!

x

Answer 29

FORGET HIM! I know it is really hard but just move on.  I'm sorry you had a miscarriage but I think it was a blessing in disguise.  Pray that God gives you the strength you need to overcome all of this and spend time with your friends and family.

Good luck to you, darling.

Answer 30

This is a sad situation, however, he may be more broken than what you are.  I had to deal with my addiction which is different than what you are going through, although, I found my healing through a group setting.  Listening to others who have gone through what I have gone through gave me the courage to overcome my emptiness and face my obstcale with courage and wisdom.  CKL

Answer 31

This is what I tell to everyone in this situation you weren't living for tomorrows satisfaction. You made a mistake, my best advice is ask for forgiveness from God. s*x before marriage is sin and not acceptable in his eyes. He will cleanse  you from you sin you just have to truly ask for forgiveness with all you heart. He will forgive you and he will help you. Ask him that you can your bf back to support you just have faith. He answers prayers even sooner than you think. Just have faith in God.