Boyfriend advice needed immediately please?!?

Question

AHHH sometimes i HATE relationships, Im gonna die!! I love my boyfriend, and he loves me! were in love, been going out for about 11 months, ugh and he hates that i had a myspace because ive had hacking problems before and people would s***w up my ****, and so he told me he didnt want me to have one anymore, so i didnt have one for a while.

Wel, i went to california to see family, and my cousins told me i should make one to K.I.T. so i did, after a week, i wasn't really keeping touch with them so i went to delete it, then my friend paul wrote me, and my boyfriend, Adrian, doesnt like him cuz me and the other guy, Paul, had gone out. but i was a stupid highschool thing, like 3 days, but my bf gets very jealous, wel, i never told my bf about the myspace thing, and the other day he ran into paul!! and paul told him we talked on myspace, but it was NOTHING, al he did was offer me his pet turtle cuz he didnt want it anymore, now my boyfriend is SOOO mad at me, and has lost all trust for me,he didnt believe me when i said it was just about the stupid turtle. i feel like ****, i keep apologizing and I didnt hear from him for 3 days, so i called him today, we talked about it a little more and now he says he wants a freaken break!! i asked him if he still loves me, and he said of course, and he'll call me when he's ready to see me, ugh but i feel horrible..what can i do to make things better?? I mean he's my love!! and i told him i never wanna lose him, and he knows. and i told him i hope he finds it in his heart to forgive me...i hope he does.i know al couples go thru big fights, but this is my first real boyfriend, idk wat to do...he tells me that sometimes he wonders if he wants a real serious relationship right now with me, but then he thinks about how much he loves me and it IS what he wants, for sure, and, i just hope he remembers that while were on this "break"... i just want everything to be better, what can i do or say to him when we do finally talk???? sorry so long, i just want to you all to understand the stroy. thanks.. and please no stupid *** comments

Answer 1

Give him his time. He needs to figure out what he wants. Know that this is the way he is. The jealousy and the possessivness are what he is. If you can live with that down the road, then wait for him to come back to you. But really think about what you're doing cause he will continue this way. You can't change him no matter what he tries to tell you. So give him time to think and if he doesn't want a relationship then just let him go.

Good Luck

Answer 2

i understand what your going through. give him his time. it hurts i know. but he's telling you that he's not really ready for something serious then i would be careful to get to attached. i think you are aready. you didnt do anything wrong. it seems like he wants control. its pretty sad that he would want a break for something like that. hope things work out for you cause i know it hurts. ive been there

Answer 3

He and you have different view point on stuffs. In order for him not jealous and forgive you, you have to show him your view point clearly and he HAVE to accept and understand it. If he CAN'T accept it NOR understand it, he will always jealous and mad. Then you have to love him strong enough to change yourself even you do nothing wrong.

For long term love, we better found someone have similar view point and can accept, understand you. If you decided not go for that route, then you have to prepare to change a lot for him, which is harder.

If you willing to take the risk, tell him your view point and let him know you willing to change for him. :)

Answer 4

Your bf is a control freak. he doesn't trust you , he never did. He made you delete your myspace just because he's insecure and has trust issues and you did, letting him control you. If you make it through the break, be sure he's going to freak out and pout any time you talk to a guy, he'll make you stop having guy friends, will check your phone, etc.

Answer 5

sounds like he is somewhat possessive toward you.

first of all, he should chill out and he needs to realize that it's only myspace.  

if he really does love you, he should have consider your side of your story about you talking to your friend Paul, instead of being close-minded about it.

i know how it feels of having the "first real" boyfriend.

i, myself, am in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years and i know the feeling of not "letting go". and whenever we have huge fights, we take breaks, so we can both realize the situation by ourselves and learn from our mistakes that way. that's what makes us stronger.

in your situation, i think you should talk to him and take a break, so you guys, especially your boyfriend, can realize what he did wrong and learn from it.

i know it's gonna be hard but "absence makes the heart fonder". if you guys can handle the break, you guys will be stronger than before, and trust me, it is worth the wait.

but if he cannot handle the break or does not know what he wants outta the relationship, you can find better men out there... someone who is willing you listen, someone who can be stable, etc.

good luck ! :)

Answer 6

one seven word sentence will solve it:

print

this

whole

page

and

show

him

Maybe e-mail him a link to it with a message that says "I need your help"

Answer 7

For a relationship to work, BOTH people have to want it to work.  It sounds like he is not willing to try.  When communications break down and both people are not willing to talk and try to work it out...then there really is no relationship.   He sounds confused...like he doesn't know whether or not he wants a relationship....It does not sound like you did anything wrong.  Maybe he just wanted a way out...and now he sees one.  I am sorry, but I think you deserve someone who wants to be with you.  I would not settle for anything less.  My husband and I never go 5 minutes being mad at each other.  We are each other's best friend and never want to be apart...we always keep honesty and open communication.  It sounds like you should move on to someone who will treat you better, trust you and communicate with you.   Good Luck!

Answer 8

Let him take his time but don't give up, keep calling him let him know that you are still there and keep the calls short and sweet!