Boyfriend depressed?

Question

I am in a relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for two years and I go to college, so we are in a long distance relationship. We love each other more than anything and there is no doubt in my mind that we are going to get married. No two people love each other more than we love each other. We have always been faithful, truthful and wonderful to each other.

This year I am rooming with three of my friends. My friends like to go out to parties on the weekend. I don't drink and I"m not into partying, but I go with them, because there my friends and so I'm not staying in the room alone. My friends are really great and they don't pressure me to drink, and when I go out I don't drink. I only go out like once a week at the most.

I have never really been to parties, and my boyfriend has been taking this really hard. He trust me, but he worries and gets really upset everytime I go out. This is so heartbreaking, because has nothing to worry about. He gets so upset and he has like become depressed, which has made me depressed.

I have kept comforting him and keep telling him how much I love him and how we will always be together and I would never betray his trust. He says he knows that and he loves me, but he hates when I go out and he just worries so much and just hates it.

I don't know what to do? How can I have my boyfriend not be depressed? this is so hard on the both of us? i just am so sad. Please help.

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Answer 1

He sounds like he loves you a lot and you sound like you love him very much. You two are lucky to have found each other this young, you should really value this love. I found my soul mate when i was 45. I wish i could of been his first every thing... I wish i had found him when we where younger. He has recently passed away and i hate the fact that i could not live every stage of life with him.

I miss him so much.

Don't be young and foolish.

Sounds like you have some major decisions to make as a young lady as your self. As my mother told me "dont let the let take the dont". That means make your mind up and stick to your apples. Dont be someone who you are not be someone who you can love as a whole.

Good luck dear, i wish you a life time of well.

God bless, sue

Answer 2

Well i am not really sure what to say to this Drew&Kel but i have been married to my wife for 18 years and we met pretty much in middle school and started dating when she was in 9th and i was in 10th.

So i went to college first and she was still in High. Some times i thought we where going to end it, more then once... Well i will skip all of that and try to help you out.

Well if your boyfriend is any thing like me and worries when his honey goes out its understandable. Its hard on us guys (and girls i can image) because even though you sound very committed he does not know what you are doing, and he is just going to worry. I mean i had my fair share of partying and my girlfriend actually took a break for long two days until she missed me so much she had her mom bring her to my college and she "took" me down and we made up. Thats when i knew i was going to marry her. I was not sure until that point but knew.

But to be honest partying gets old you will find that fast, i mean every one sticks to who they know. After that point i stopped going out, out of respect for her and plus i was sick of it the first month... I mean i went out some times but really it was not worth the fights. I mean i regret not going out allot but i would of regretted even more losing her.

I dont know i guess you have to ask your self, who do you chose your friends or your boyfriend? I mean i tried to balance it out. Like when my  Frat roomies went out (every night), i felt a little alone but i just called my sugar up. I mean "back" then computers where not used like they are now but i am sure you could get creative.

I mean i am not really sure what you should do, talk to you friends and see if they like doing other stuff at night instead of drinking and other things some college students like doing... If drug use still big in college, i sure hope not.

Maybe take a break like my girlfriend did and surprise him and take him down. It worked for me, honey. Even though i was a rack when i thought it was over....

Well good luck, people say these are the times of your life. I disagree it was when i graduated and got married.

P.S We have four kids and we are very happy. I hope it works out as well as it did for me! Also good luck in college hope your doing well hun.

Answer 3

You should take him with you sometimes when he is free or show him how much you love him by kissing him after a candlelight dinner.