Boyfriend help pleasee?

Question

Ok so i cheated on my boyfriend twice and he forgave me the first time and the second time, well i told him on sat. and he was pissed but he like delt with it for 2 days then on monday he was like "i think we need a break" so im like "..ok i understand" and now we are on break but he will still talk to me and like he told me on monday he would hang out with me on thurs and so its thurs and he comes home from idk where and hes like "hey i gtg to Cafe night" its some college orientation **** and im like "..oh but u told me ud hang with me" and hes like "ik but technically we are on break so..." and i dont getttt it, like he can come home and talk to me and 2 nite ago i was sad about school stuff and he hung out with me for 3 hours until i felt better but thennn once it comes to school stuff with HIM he will use the Break excuss and i think hes only doin it so he can go out and party with college people cause im still a soph. We are very much inlove and have been goin out for over a month and he told me he didnt want to break up but just to go on a break cause he needs to think about everything sense i cheated. Can anyone tell me what is really going on

Answer 1

i think he is trying to find a way to cheat but you said it was ok like he wants to take a "break" to see other people maybe (guys are weird) personally if there isnt anything going on that is great in the relationship move on

Answer 2

You've cheated on him TWICE and your wondering why he isn't so keen?! He's been very forgiving thus far, If Chris cheated on me I'd be out the door, never looking back! He wants space, so give him space. If he comes back to you, then you know he wants you, as for blowing you off on a 'date' well I don't blame him after the way you have behaved, sorry sweetie. Had to be blunt

Answer 3

maybe he talks about less serious stuff because he thinks if he gets into the personall stuff and deep into your problems again hes like the boyfriend again, Get over yourself,............. your the one that cheated and just be happy hes your friend and does not hate you or is saying really bad things about you, he obviously is an amazing guy and its your loss, too bad huni, you cheated on him and i hope you have remorse, but i also hope you have grown up and if he takes you back have some respect, hes a good guy.he wants to know and maybe experience new girls to find out why he was not enough for you that you had to cheat on him, so let him have his time at least he is honest.

Answer 4

Well, i don't need to be a psychic or behaviourist to realise you expect him to play away because you did so twice in a year and expect him to reciprocate that lack of commitment and lack of mature commitment it certainly was if you were supposed to be together and you've not come to a mutual agreement to have intimate partners but stay together, such relationships are fine but must have consent of both partners or else a relationship will disintegrate.

So you feel scared and possessive and so are insecure about the way the relationship is going because you feel love for him and really don't want to lose him or even play away.

Well that is not going to go away unless you communicate with him properly and make firm and honest commitments to him and be sincere in showing contrition for your playing the field while you were supposed to be with him.

I gather he is a bit older than you, seems like he is trying to be mature about it and called time out so you could establish your own feelings about him, ever heard the term "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", well that's what i would think he is hoping for if he is a noble and mature type that's likely what it is, trying to make you realise your feelings towards him so you commit to a more stable relationship, also he has a life and may realise most people can't be with eachother all the time and people need their space for lots of reasons and that's part of healthy relationships, especially intimate ones.

Don't let your guilt based fears get the better of you and don't get obsessive about him spending time apart from you.

You really need to clarify your feelings for this guy and then have a sincere heart to heart with him, show real contrition for cheating on him and if you are really sincere about wanting to have a proper commited relationship let him know that.

But i suspect you already know it will take time for him to fully trust you again, it was your bad and you are paying the piper now, you obviously do care else you wouldn't be asking how to heal it.

Don't say you will be faithful if he is looking for a stable relationship and you can't trust yourself not to cheat again, guys often have a sixth sense about that sort of thing same as you girls, happens when people are close to eachother.

You will have to learn to trust him being apart and doing his thing and time will teach him to trust you again, if you really mean it, else you may as well say you're just friends and let him go now.

Sounds like a decent chap if he's forgiven you twice, be mature, talk with him and allow time to heal, if it was meant to be it will be if you make the effort but don't try to smother him because you feel he will do the same as you did to him.

Hope it works out for you.

Peace.

Answer 5

if you really care about him you'll put up with this random behaviour.

right now hes really confused, he doesnt know what to think, which is why hes not sure weather he wants to hang out with you or not. he feels upset and betrayed because you cheated, and needs some space, but then at the same time he obviously doesnt want to be away from you.

the best thing is to let him sort his head out, and everythin will be fine.

Answer 6

You have been with him a month and already cheated twice is that correct

Answer 7

Are you kidding me?

YOU CHEATED ON HIM TWICE.

you expect him to not be the way he is right now.